Grief support for all coping with the loss of a child

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Dear Kristi I am sorry for the lost of your son. I lost my oldest son on July 24 2009 . Its been over a couple of months. It doesn't get easier ,Losing a child is just wrong I don't know if I can take this broken heart much longer. I'm hoping with this support group we can help each other. Take Care
Hello Amelia,
I am so sorry about the loss of your son. This group is very helpful as most of us are coping with a similar loss. You are not alone in your grief, and we are here to listen and offer support. My son was killed in a car accident on December 28, 2008. He had just turned 20 four days earlier. My personal journey since his death has been like being on a roller coaster ride; I never know what to expect next. At first I thought there would never be another chance for happiness - would it even be right to feel happiness - but now I have hope for the future. I know my son would want me to live a happy life. As every person says who has experienced such profound grief: You never get over it, but you learn to live with it. There's no right way and no wrong way to grieve, and no two people grieve the same at the same time. This has been a blessing for me to realize as my husband and I have had very different ways of dealing with our son's death, but we know that it's okay and normal. Again, I'm sorry for your loss, and may God bless you and your family.
Judy
Dear Kristi....
....Just a few more days until "thee aniversary"; That will be hard for your family to go through, but mostly you, his mother. As a Mother, I don't believe anyone could grieve as we do. We knew them, (our children) before they were ever born.
I will experience the 3rd year myself on April 29, 2010. I know, as you do, how in some ways it seems like only yesterday. I keep thinking with every day that takes so very long to get through; how can three years already have passed?
I remember someone telling me soon after Jordans death, that... "He is in a good place, he was a christian; and he wants you to be happy". And I knew all those things...but knowing those things still doesen't make it any easier. In the Bible it says there is "a time to grieve". This is our time. Just know, I am praying for you, and grieving with you. My dear friend...take care...God Bless You.
........................Leslie

kristi said:
NEXT WEEK OCT 7TH WILL BE 3 YEARS SINCE MY SON HAS BEEN GONE TEARS CAN NOT BRING HIM BACK,BUT MISS HIM SO MUCH,SAID WEEK AHEAD I WILL MAKE IT FOR TEARS OR WHAT EVER I HAVE TO DO RIGHT?THANKS FOR HELPING ME THOU THIS.
Dear Amelia,
The hardest thing in the world to go through is losing a child. Your wound is so new, that my heart breaks for you knowing what you must face in the months to come.
I lost my son Jordan, and his girlfriend to a terrible roll-over accident April 29, 2007. He was only 23 years old. Just begining his life. I remember the first few weeks and months after his passing, I was in a fog. Not really feeling like it was my life or me that was actually experincing "this" - (like in a bad dream) I felt I would wake up at any moment, and Jordan would be here.
I won't lie to you, it will get worse. I never wanted to die, but the pain inside me, that kept trying to consume me, made me feel like I was dying. You will NEVER GET OVER IT... BUT YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT.
I just found this site a few months ago, but Praise God, you found it now. So soon, when you really need it. I wished I had been blessed much sooner with knowing the friends I have made on this site. No matter what, keep comming back. And what ever you are feeling, tell us. "We know" what you are feeling. And we are here to share with you..to listen..to pray with you and for you when you feel you can't. God Bless you our new friend...We are grieving with you.
....................Leslie
amelia r chavez said:
Dear Kristi I am sorry for the lost of your son. I lost my oldest son on July 24 2009 . Its been over a couple of months. It doesn't get easier ,Losing a child is just wrong I don't know if I can take this broken heart much longer. I'm hoping with this support group we can help each other. Take Care
thank you for the concern,this weekend i have adopt a highway pickup because this is the first weekend that he died.so all my family comes up and helps me and helps me throu this weekend.yes it does say that in the bible.i have been going to church and last weekend that was something they were talking about.yes my friends say that all the time to go on with your life like he never esististed or something.thank you and i will be on here on the 7th of oct because i take that day off and his bithday off.thank you and my prayers go out to you to.kristi

Leslie L. Fiorda said:
Dear Kristi....
....Just a few more days until "thee aniversary"; That will be hard for your family to go through, but mostly you, his mother. As a Mother, I don't believe anyone could grieve as we do. We knew them, (our children) before they were ever born.
I will experience the 3rd year myself on April 29, 2010. I know, as you do, how in some ways it seems like only yesterday. I keep thinking with every day that takes so very long to get through; how can three years already have passed?
I remember someone telling me soon after Jordans death, that... "He is in a good place, he was a christian; and he wants you to be happy". And I knew all those things...but knowing those things still doesen't make it any easier. In the Bible it says there is "a time to grieve". This is our time. Just know, I am praying for you, and grieving with you. My dear friend...take care...God Bless You.
........................Leslie

kristi said:
NEXT WEEK OCT 7TH WILL BE 3 YEARS SINCE MY SON HAS BEEN GONE TEARS CAN NOT BRING HIM BACK,BUT MISS HIM SO MUCH,SAID WEEK AHEAD I WILL MAKE IT FOR TEARS OR WHAT EVER I HAVE TO DO RIGHT?THANKS FOR HELPING ME THOU THIS.
Hi kristi,You have to keep praying and hang in there. You know all the crying that we have done together,we should have ran out of tears. But as long as we live there will be tears. It would always be something to remind us of them. Or maybe someone would say or do something and we would say oh my boy use to say or do that. Some would even look like your kid,this has brought so many tears from my eyes seeing someone that reminds me of Kris. Well you know my three years was on April 9th and that is the hardest day of my life because Kris and my Mom died on the same date. One at 02:41 and the other at 02:42. So you know this is just a tear day for me. But Kristi I am still praying with and for you asking God for continueuous strength. Well this prayer is for of us who has loat a kid or children. I have burried two sons but years apart. But it don't make a difference how many years it still hurt a whole lot. But it will be alright Kristi,just take one day at a time like we have been doing. Elaine

amelia r chavez said:
Dear Kristi I am sorry for the lost of your son. I lost my oldest son on July 24 2009 . Its been over a couple of months. It doesn't get easier ,Losing a child is just wrong I don't know if I can take this broken heart much longer. I'm hoping with this support group we can help each other. Take Care
To all on this site who read this.
I have been reading your stories for several weeks now and my heart goes out to each and every one of you. I do not want to be here, but unfortunately I am. My son and only child was killed 4 weeks ago today by a drunk driver. Ric was on his way to work, it was 7:22 a.m. when he was killed. His death was untimely and horrific. This happened in Fl. where he lived. My son leaves behind many who loved him, including 2 daughters and 2 step children who are devastated by his death. He was only 43 years old.The man who killed my son killed me also, as I am dead inside. The driver had his girlfriends 8 year old in the car with him and fled the scene. He was caught thanks to wittnesses. I wakeup each morning crying for what my son went through, it should not have happened. The man had priors in another state and did bodily injury to someone else while under the influence of alcohol.He broke parole, fled to Fl. and killed my son. He was almost 3 times over the legal limit. The system needs to be changed, dui laws need to be enforced and penalities more severe. As you all know, this drastically changes who you are. My emotions are like a roller coaster. I go from wanting to be with my son, to wanting to make a difference and making his life count and to revenge his death. I would appreciate any and all support.
With a heavy heart,
Gerry, Ric's Mom
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Judy said:
Hello Amelia,
I am so sorry about the loss of your son. This group is very helpful as most of us are coping with a similar loss. You are not alone in your grief, and we are here to listen and offer support. My son was killed in a car accident on December 28, 2008. He had just turned 20 four days earlier. My personal journey since his death has been like being on a roller coaster ride; I never know what to expect next. At first I thought there would never be another chance for happiness - would it even be right to feel happiness - but now I have hope for the future. I know my son would want me to live a happy life. As every person says who has experienced such profound grief: You never get over it, but you learn to live with it. There's no right way and no wrong way to grieve, and no two people grieve the same at the same time. This has been a blessing for me to realize as my husband and I have had very different ways of dealing with our son's death, but we know that it's okay and normal. Again, I'm sorry for your loss, and may God bless you and your family.
Judy
Please accept my condolences, and I do agree about the laws. This is happening way to often. You are in my prayers.

Gerry Fiden said:
To all on this site who read this.
I have been reading your stories for several weeks now and my heart goes out to each and every one of you. I do not want to be here, but unfortunately I am. My son and only child was killed 4 weeks ago today by a drunk driver. Ric was on his way to work, it was 7:22 a.m. when he was killed. His death was untimely and horrific. This happened in Fl. where he lived. My son leaves behind many who loved him, including 2 daughters and 2 step children who are devastated by his death. He was only 43 years old.The man who killed my son killed me also, as I am dead inside. The driver had his girlfriends 8 year old in the car with him and fled the scene. He was caught thanks to wittnesses. I wakeup each morning crying for what my son went through, it should not have happened. The man had priors in another state and did bodily injury to someone else while under the influence of alcohol.He broke parole, fled to Fl. and killed my son. He was almost 3 times over the legal limit. The system needs to be changed, dui laws need to be enforced and penalities more severe. As you all know, this drastically changes who you are. My emotions are like a roller coaster. I go from wanting to be with my son, to wanting to make a difference and making his life count and to revenge his death. I would appreciate any and all support.
With a heavy heart,
Gerry, Ric's Mom
Hello Judy! Thanks for you for you words of encouragement I really needed it today. I am sorry for your loss as well.I know that its a rough road ahead but let me tell you that it seem that just those emails from others that are going through this is helping me realize i am not the only one hurting,so many of us losing a child at such an early age it just doesn't seem right? thanks you and God BLESS you and your family.

amelia r chavez said:
Judy said:
Hello Amelia,
I am so sorry about the loss of your son. This group is very helpful as most of us are coping with a similar loss. You are not alone in your grief, and we are here to listen and offer support. My son was killed in a car accident on December 28, 2008. He had just turned 20 four days earlier. My personal journey since his death has been like being on a roller coaster ride; I never know what to expect next. At first I thought there would never be another chance for happiness - would it even be right to feel happiness - but now I have hope for the future. I know my son would want me to live a happy life. As every person says who has experienced such profound grief: You never get over it, but you learn to live with it. There's no right way and no wrong way to grieve, and no two people grieve the same at the same time. This has been a blessing for me to realize as my husband and I have had very different ways of dealing with our son's death, but we know that it's okay and normal. Again, I'm sorry for your loss, and may God bless you and your family.
Judy
Linda crawley said:
Please accept my condolences, and I do agree about the laws. This is happening way to often. You are in my prayers.

Gerry Fiden said:
To all on this site who read this.
I have been reading your stories for several weeks now and my heart goes out to each and every one of you. I do not want to be here, but unfortunately I am. My son and only child was killed 4 weeks ago today by a drunk driver. Ric was on his way to work, it was 7:22 a.m. when he was killed. His death was untimely and horrific. This happened in Fl. where he lived. My son leaves behind many who loved him, including 2 daughters and 2 step children who are devastated by his death. He was only 43 years old.The man who killed my son killed me also, as I am dead inside. The driver had his girlfriends 8 year old in the car with him and fled the scene. He was caught thanks to wittnesses. I wakeup each morning crying for what my son went through, it should not have happened. The man had priors in another state and did bodily injury to someone else while under the influence of alcohol.He broke parole, fled to Fl. and killed my son. He was almost 3 times over the legal limit. The system needs to be changed, dui laws need to be enforced and penalities more severe. As you all know, this drastically changes who you are. My emotions are like a roller coaster. I go from wanting to be with my son, to wanting to make a difference and making his life count and to revenge his death. I would appreciate any and all support.
With a heavy heart,
Gerry, Ric's Mom
this weekend went well i had alot of support about 40 people showed up to help me out.the annivesary of my sons death is tomorrow oct 7th,2009 and i cant even cry because i am taking care of my family all have the flu.but i know i will be able to close the door and cry.it hurts me alot still that he isnt here with me.tried support group but no one is showing up so i might have to go to a different town to go to one.but it helps to talk about him like he was still here.r.i.p.everette paul armstrong 9-12-90 to 10=-7-06.i will write what i put in the paper i hope you like it ok.
WE MISS YOU TONIGHT
AS THE LIGHTS BURN LOW,
YES SON WE MISS YOU ,
FOR WE LOVE YOU SO:
WE LOVE YOU TRULY,
AND THAT YOU KNOW
IS WHY TONIGHT
WE MISS YOU SO
MEMORY OF EVERETTE ARMSTRONG
9-12-90 TO 10-7-06
LOVE MOM,DAD,BECCA,BEN
WE MISS YOU ALWAYS
THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR CONCERN I WILL BE ALRIGHT

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