Grief support for all coping with the loss of a child
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Who are your Heroes? Mine are my three sons. Two for fighting with all their might to survive cancer and dying with dignity when a cure was not to be found. I will love and miss them forever. My other hero is my son who is 22 now for being brave. He was brave in dealing with his brothers death and for not letting it destroy his life and future. It take so much strength to do something with you life when you have been through so much. I love him so much and will look up to him forever.
Merry Christmas to my boys.
Love Mom
Dear JoAnn:
Unfortunately unforeseen occurrences befall us all as stated in Ecclesiates 9:11. We live in a world that seems to be getting worse by the minute. We must put our faith and hope in God and his son Jesus Christ. I find that focusing on my faith and putting God first, makes all the difference. Sometimes it's easier said that done. Prayer is the key. Psalms 55:22 says "Throw your burden upon Jehovah and he himself will sustain you. Never will he allow the righteous one to totter". Losing a child at no matter what age is especially difficult for a parent. A child is supposed to outlive the parents, but as long as we live in a world filled with crime, sickness, disease, war, famine and disasters, we will keep losing our loved ones. I lost my mother when I was seven and I draw so much comfort knowing that one day I will see her again. Jesus made this promise at John 5:28,29 and we have various examples of resurrections from he performed mentioned in the Bible. Although Jesus was perfect, he wept for his friend Lazarus, so Jehovah and Jesus understand the suffering we endure when we lose a loved one. We can be assured that one day we have the hope of living in a world free from death, sickness, unforeseen occurrences, disease, crime, violence, war and disasters as promised at Revelation 21:3,4. Please put your trust in God and his son, pray incessantly and you will find comfort and help in dealing with your pain. I hope that you found some comfort from the scriptures and words I have shared with you.
Sincerely, Debra
JoAnn said:
Tragedy seems to be a part of my family history..my grandmother was hit by a car, grandfather murdered, my dad fell from an 8 story building and recently my son was taken by a wild horse. My son was 42, with 2 children and a baby due Christmas day. None of this make sense...I have faith and trust in the Lord...but it is still hard as a mother losing my son.
I have not been on here for a while. And would like to share that this loss of my son has broke me down. So this might help some of you. I have been going to a support group called griefshare, and is helping me to learn how to heal, so my homework is to write a letter to friends ,family and those who might not know how to help someone that is grieving. And they tell you to lean into it. So here it is!
To whom it may concern,
I’m writing this letter to let you know that we have suffered from a devastating loss. Our grieving has no time limits. At times we can be angry, sad, happy, overwhelmed and we can sometimes cry. So please don’t take it personally and just know that we need to be able to express our emotions. This is healthy grieving and this is how we are going to be able to recover from our loss. We are getting counseling, and are in a support group. Our lives have changed for ever. We are learning to COPE with our new life. We know that people just want to help. And don’t mean to make the pain worse or to stop the process. So here are some ways you can help if you want to help:
We are being very hard on ourselves and are working on changing that one day at a time. Our life is one day at a time now. We are going to church. One day when we are ready. We will be full of laughter and joy and peace. So don’t rush us to get through this. So until then be patient with us and understanding. Thank you in advance.
Love always,
Leslie,
It has been awhile...I could not help but respond to your message.
I too wonder how each day seems so long, yet it seems only like yesterday that I got the news about Ric being killed. It has been 19 months and there are days I still have difficulty believing my son is gone.
Some days we can run...other days it is just baby steps. I guess that's the way it will be until we reunite with them.
I will say a prayer for Jordan tomorrow on his ANGEL DAY..and as always will remember you my friend.
God be With You,
Gerry
Hi Kristi..I
m sorry for your lose,,I feel your pain and I know how hard every day is.. My 27 yr old son died 9 months ago, from a car accident , he was a passinger
.He had no say. When we get into a car with someone .Our lives are in the drivers hands..so scary,,,today is mother's day..not a good day for me any more
kristi said:
I LOST MY SON IN OCT 7TH,2006 HE WAS ONLY 16 WHEN HE PASSED AWAY AND I DIDNT FEEL ANY PAIN AT ALL BECAUSE I WAS NUMB.AND TILL THIS DAY I LOST MY MIND SOMEWHAT,I ASKED QUESTIONS TO PEOPLE THAT I WENT TO THE DOCTORS OR SOMETHING WITH.MY FRIENDS ARE STILL CONCERNED BECAUSE I FEEL STRONG BUT I FEEL I AM A BURDEN TO THEM IF I CRY OR IF I TALK ABOUT MY SON.WHAT HAPPENED WAS MY SON WENT TO HIS FRIENDS HOUSE HIS FRIEND WAS CLEANING HIS GUN HE SAID AND HE THOUGHT HE TOOK ALL THE BULLETS OUT OF THE GUN,POINTED THE GUN AT MY SON AND PULLED THE TRIGGER,THE KID WAS ONLY 15,HE GOT PROBATION TILL HE IS 19.2,987RESTITUTION AND 200 OF COMMUNITY SERVICE,EVERY ONE ASK IF IT WAS A ACCIDENT AND I ALWAYS SAY I AM THE MOM AND I DONT THINK SO BUT YOU ALL BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT TO.SO MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AND I AM HERE TO TALK TO BECAUSE I NEED SOME ONE TO TALK TO.HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN SINCE YOUR SON?BUT I WENT TO SUPPORT GROUP AND THEY SAY TALK ABOUT THE DEATH OF YOUR FAMILY THAT HAVE BEEN GONE AND IT WILL HELP EASE THE PAIN AND I HAVE DONE THAT.AND IT HELPS.THANKS AND I HOPE WE TALK SOMEDAY.THANKS FOR LISTENING
To All,
Today is probably the third hardest day for all of us moms on Legacy. The first being the day our child died the second being their birthday, and having to celebrate that day that changed our lives forever without them.
My Mothers Day wish for all here...is
PEACE IN YOUR HEART
YOUR CHILDS LOVE AND PRECIOUS MEMORIES FOREVER
And..
GODS LOVE TO SEE YOU THROUGH YOUR LIFE..UNTIL WE REUNTIE WE OUR CHILDREN
God Be With You All,'
Gerry
Hi Kristi..I
m sorry for your lose,,I feel your pain and I know how hard every day is.. My 27 yr old son died 9 months ago, from a car accident , he was a passinger
.He had no say. When we get into a car with someone .Our lives are in the drivers hands..so scary,,,today is mother's day..not a good day for me any more
kristi said:I LOST MY SON IN OCT 7TH,2006 HE WAS ONLY 16 WHEN HE PASSED AWAY AND I DIDNT FEEL ANY PAIN AT ALL BECAUSE I WAS NUMB.AND TILL THIS DAY I LOST MY MIND SOMEWHAT,I ASKED QUESTIONS TO PEOPLE THAT I WENT TO THE DOCTORS OR SOMETHING WITH.MY FRIENDS ARE STILL CONCERNED BECAUSE I FEEL STRONG BUT I FEEL I AM A BURDEN TO THEM IF I CRY OR IF I TALK ABOUT MY SON.WHAT HAPPENED WAS MY SON WENT TO HIS FRIENDS HOUSE HIS FRIEND WAS HIS GUN HE SAID AND HE THOUGHT HE TOOK ALL THE BULLETS OUT OF THE GUN,POINTED THE GUN AT MY SON AND PULLED THE TRIGGER,THE KID WAS ONLY 15,HE GOT PROBATION TILL HE IS 19.2,987RESTITUTION AND 200 OF COMMUNITY SERVICE,EVERY ONE ASK IF IT WAS A ACCIDENT AND I ALWAYS SAY I AM THE MOM AND I DONT THINK SO BUT YOU ALL BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT TO.SO MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AND I AM HERE TO TALK TO BECAUSE I NEED SOME ONE TO TALK TO.HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN SINCE YOUR SON?BUT I WENT TO SUPPORT GROUP AND THEY SAY TALK ABOUT THE DEATH OF YOUR FAMILY THAT HAVE BEEN GONE AND IT WILL HELP EASE THE PAIN AND I HAVE DONE THAT.AND IT HELPS.THANKS AND I HOPE WE TALK SOMEDAY.THANKS FOR LISTENING
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