The loss of a child

AMEN, GERRY...AMEN!

Gerry Fiden said:
To All,

Today is probably the third hardest day for all of us moms on Legacy. The first being the day our child died the second being their birthday, and having to celebrate that day that changed our lives forever without them.

My Mothers Day wish for all here...is

PEACE IN YOUR HEART

YOUR CHILDS LOVE AND PRECIOUS MEMORIES FOREVER

And..

GODS LOVE TO SEE YOU THROUGH YOUR LIFE..UNTIL WE REUNTIE WE OUR CHILDREN

God Be With You All,'

Gerry

Permalink Reply by Valyncia Smothers on October 12, 2011 at 6:46am

I know it is true that every living thing has lost a loved one in death. What gives me encouragement is the bible's message on the subject. I am a avid bible reader, and when I was made aware of this scripture, I felt encouraged that God had something to say about this. I know that God suffered the most when he sent his only begotten son down to this earth to die for each and every one of our sins, he did that because he loved us, and he made sure he resurrected his son. (John 3:16; Acts 2:22-24) But what about our loved ones? What will he do for them? At Revelations 21:4 it says "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away." Yes when I read this and put faith in it, I felt better about losing loved ones, and my attitude towards death changed. I don't feel so hopeless anymore, because I know that God is not one to lie (Titus 1:2) and he is not man that he should feel regret. (Numbers 23:19) I hope everyone who reads this, will get the needed encouragement from it, and I urge you to look up the scriptures here, especially those who have faith in God. Stay strong and keep moving towards a brighter attitude about death, one day soon, you may be able to see your loved ones again.

With Sincerity,

Lynci

Permalink Reply by Melinda Ellen Guinn on December 22, 2011 at 7:51pm

I can't wait for my time to die because i know my just turned 30 yr old daughter, Candace Rae Watson, will be taking me Home to Jesus w/her!!

Permalink Reply by Melinda Ellen Guinn on February 9, 2012 at 7:40pm

Lynciea, You have a very positive frame of mind. Thanks for being so upbeat. I miss my just turned 30 yr old daughter soo much! On Feb 11, she would've turned 32, She passed less than 2 months after she turned 30. She has 3 little girls who were 8, 7 & 2 on the day she went to Heaven on April 9, '10.

I know it is true that every living thing has lost a loved one in death. What gives me encouragement is the bible's message on the subject. I am a avid bible reader, and when I was made aware of this scripture, I felt encouraged that God had something to say about this. I know that God suffered the most when he sent his only begotten son down to this earth to die for each and every one of our sins, he did that because he loved us, and he made sure he resurrected his son. (John 3:16; Acts 2:22-24) But what about our loved ones? What will he do for them? At Revelations 21:4 it says "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away." Yes when I read this and put faith in it, I felt better about losing loved ones, and my attitude towards death changed. I don't feel so hopeless anymore, because I know that God is not one to lie (Titus 1:2) and he is not man that he should feel regret. (Numbers 23:19) I hope everyone who reads this, will get the needed encouragement from it, and I urge you to look up the scriptures here, especially those who have faith in God. Stay strong and keep moving towards a brighter attitude about death, one day soon, you may be able to see your loved ones again.

With Sincerity,

Lynci

Permalink Reply by Dennis Cole on March 10, 2012 at 6:50am

And, taking the hand of the young child, he said to her: “Tal´i·tha cu´mi,” which, translated, means: “Maiden, I say to you, Get up!” ... And immediately the maiden rose and began walking, for she was twelve years old. And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy.

This is a scripture from the Bible book of Mark (chapter 5 verses 41 and 42)

We can only imagine how those parents felt. Their precious child had died. But now Jesus had reunited them. He had given her life again. The verse says that the parents were "beside themselves with great ecstasy."

We are beside ourselves with great heartache and sadness because of our loss and don't see the way out sometimes. But Jesus proved that he is greater than even death itself. He promised that one day he would reunite every family.

But for now many of us are left with heartache and confusion.

Why did God take my loved one?
Why does God cause so much suffering and grief?
What really happens to us when we die?
Why do we die?

To find answers to these questions please follow the links below. I found the information there very educational and comforting.

http://www.watchtower.org/e/bh/article_06.htm
http://www.watchtower.org/e/bh/article_07.htm
http://www.watchtower.org/e/bh/article_11.htm

Permalink Reply by Leslie L. Fiorda on April 18, 2012 at 10:58am

Hello Gerry...Mary...Joanne...it has been awhile. Still I think of you often, and keep those forced to come here, in my prayers. Angel Day for my Jordan is coming soon; April 29th...hard to believe it is here again. Thank you in advance for your prayers...as I will need them yet again. I have been able to share my feelings on here with you all, with words I've never been able to speak in person to anyone. Thank you...

It is funny, I don't know you personally, but almost every time I think about my son, I think of you as well. Gerry, it was you that wrote me and said about ..."how connected we all are, through our loss of our children". So very true. I feel sometimes as though we are all "long-lost-cousins"; Or like we will meet up at the family reunion. I guess we WILL all meet one day...with our sons by our side.

Thank you Jesus for my friends on here, and continue to bless them each day! With Love and Prayers.......Leslie

Permalink Reply by Gerry Fiden on April 19, 2012 at 8:36am

Dear Leslie,

Like you, I have not been active on Legacy in quite some time, I do though think of you and so many others. I t is this site and the friends made here that helped me deal with Ric's death.

You can count on me praying for you and Jordan especially on his Angel Day. Check out the prayer registry, if you have not already, we say a prayer on every child's Angel Day. Not as close of a group as here but still a good one. Thank you for keeping me in your thought it means so much.The woman who started prayer registry believes in "connecting up" to our children. Any time you need to talk I am an e-away. Take care my friend.

Luv you,

Gerry

Permalink Reply by Melinda Ellen Guinn on April 21, 2012 at 5:23pm

Mom loves you very, very much Boog!!! You're in my mind every day punkin'.

Permalink Reply by Lori Jones-Andy's mom on April 25, 2012 at 3:33pm

I have to lose my 20 yr old son, find him dead in his bed here at home, a scene I cannot get out of my head. Now our insurnace company (Metlife go figure) after 4 months of stringing up a long is refusing to pay saying that some statement of health wasn't signed by him (after they said that was settled mind you and they have collected premiums all the way up til his death), his bio father refuses to pay for any part of the funeral, thinks that his back child support should be his part, and we have to decide whether to sue the pain management doctor who we liked and trusted but ultimately cost us our son...and wonder if any doctor will treat the rest of us if we do. THIS IS ALL FAR FAR MORE THAN I CAN HANDLE!!!!!!!!

Permalink Reply by Lori Jones-Andy's mom on April 25, 2012 at 5:24pm

I'm so upset I failed to mention, without the insurance, if we don't get this settled they will have to move my Baby's body to a different spot. This is just horrific to me, disrupting the final resting spot is simply wrong. :(

Lori J. Jones said:

I have to lose my 20 yr old son, find him dead in his bed here at home, a scene I cannot get out of my head. Now our insurnace company (Metlife go figure) after 4 months of stringing up a long is refusing to pay saying that some statement of health wasn't signed by him (after they said that was settled mind you and they have collected premiums all the way up til his death), his bio father refuses to pay for any part of the funeral, thinks that his back child support should be his part, and we have to decide whether to sue the pain management doctor who we liked and trusted but ultimately cost us our son...and wonder if any doctor will treat the rest of us if we do. THIS IS ALL FAR FAR MORE THAN I CAN HANDLE!!!!!!!!

Permalink Reply by Lori Jones-Andy's mom on May 12, 2012 at 2:34am

This says it all. ((((HUGS))))

Permalink Reply by Virginia Jones on May 17, 2012 at 9:53pm

this is a wonderful site - and, since we all need as much support and help as possible, I'd also like to make sure everyone knows about Compassionate Friends. There are chapters literally everywhere, that meet in self-help and support. All members have lost a child, and are very understanding. It's so good to hear my son's name spoken, and to be able to tell my story - as many times as possible.

They have an awesome website, and offer webinars on special topics as well.

www.thecompassionatefriends.org