Virginia, thank you so much for this post. It hasn't even been 2 months yet since I lost Waymon, but I am so depressed and have had little hope for the future getting any better. This does give me hope that in time I will be able enjoy life again. This is a wonderful site and I am so glad that i found it. With God's help and the wonderful people on this site I am hopeful that i will have the strength to make it through the difficult days ahead. Thanks again for brightening my day. God does work in mysterious ways.
Virginia, I definitely agree with you. I was very depressed when I found this site 6 or 7 mos ago, and I feel so much better for having read all the wonderful things people say, and also for knowing that we all share this thing called grieving. I've made wonderful new friends and am very grateful for that. Yesterday was 23 mos since I lost my Kevin, and I literally thought my life of ever being happy was over. I am much better now and try to stay positive by remembering all the wonderful memories we shared together in our 22 years. I know I will always miss him, but I promised him I'd be OK, and I have to honor that promise. Yes, there is hope and we must all cling to that and continue to help each other thru our words & prayers.
virginia: just read your comment good for you girl i pray that one day i may be as strong as you keep the good memories and bless you and good luck
Virginia, Thank you for the words of hope. This feeling of emptiness and pain can be so over whelming that you feel as if it will never stop to know that there is hope. I read every post, but most of the time i just don't know how to respond. But as I sat and watched Joe die I thought about how he wasn't prepared for what was happening to him and to know that he was scared is what is making me feel worse than anything else. But I also know that he loved me more than the world and that he knew he was the most important thing in my life. He would want me to be well again. Reading your letter has made me feel that one day that might happen for me. Bless you all and Thank you.
Thank you so much for the hope Virginia. It's been almost a month that my love went to heaven, but I do feel I've made progress.....and I feel like he would be proud of me. He was so courageous through it all, I can only hope he is saying the same about me.
There was a line once in a tv show that I still remember to this day. It was in a Little House on the Prairie episode at a funeral. I always said I would have it at my funeral.
"Remember me with smiles and laughter, for that is how I'll remember you all. If you can only remember me with tears, then don't remember me at all"
I believe Dale would feel the same way.