When in this situation one may think to leave well alone. Well, that isn't as easy as said or done. Remind ur loved one that we r in the same place/Sharing your feelings mutually. Express ur own feelings , u would be surprised the nerve stricken is a bolt of lightning GIVEn to wake up. God places us in these situations so to Console and Give in to Him. Surrender ur feelings whole-heartedly and in turn the others will confide, trust and Open their hearts, as well. Quoted from my Mom; who recently passed.