I really like what Deborah said, there will be a time of first that are of good things. Getting there is another story. Husband passed Dec 12, 2009. 31years marriage.
Sorry about that...hit the wrong button.
Hi Max. I feel for you too. I don't really know if 2 months or 4 months has any different feeling as it still seems like yesterday. I know you are right though about how WE feel inside ourselves. No one can tell us how we should feel. I have been put on a mild antidepressant. I'm not sure it is helping but the doctor wants me to take it anyway so I am. Life, as I knew it is over. You are also right about waking every morning alone. My Harry and I were very close and we got along so well. It was a wonderful relationship. I actually had someone say to me "there's another man out there for you, you'll be ok". I was shocked! If I live to be 100 (God forbid), there will NEVER be another man in my life. I am 58 and however long I have to endure this horrible life, it will be without a husband.
I know that man meant well but he didn't think before he spoke. At that time, it had only been 2 months. When people ask me how I am, I tell them I'm taking it one day at a time...one minute at a time. Even 4 mos later, it is still so fresh. I know you feel that too. My husband was diagnosed in May 2009 with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. He NEVER went to the doctor. He died 6 1/2 mos later, just 12 days before Christmas. He did not suffer for long nor did he have horrible pain like some people endure. He did not ask for much pain meds but sometimes I think he endured more than he had to so he could be "with it" while the kids and grandchildren were here. I hope your husband did not have to suffer. THAT is one thing we do not want them to go through. I will keep you in my prayers and feel free to write me at any time. Embrace family and friends. They are the ones who will get us through this.