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Boy can I relate to this. Not only was I shunned at MY husband's funeral by his family, my one sister-in-law made it known to anyone in earshot that they had no say in the arrangements. She then proceeded to make a very derogatory comment in a roomful of people about one of my sisters. This one sister volunteered her time to take me out to make the arrangements. She even stood by me and held my hand when I was able to have a private viewing of my husband the day before the visitation. I really don't have any contact with them. However, if my daughter wants one she can as she is over the age of 18. I've told her in no uncertain terms that the way they treated me that day I no longer want any contact with them unless absolutely necessary. It just never occurred to me before my husband died that they would be this way. I'm sure they would have preferred if it was me and not my husband. I understand they are grieving. But I was the one with him during the sixteen months he struggled with his cancer. They all lived in denial when he was sick and really didn't get involved until I informed my mother-in-law that I had to place him in hospice in our home. Then all of a sudden they wanted to be involved. I think they felt guilty. Too bad...so sad.
It is with death that you get to see people for who they truly are. Sad but true. Similar things happened to me. You have the best of him, you know his every like and dislike, what he wanted, where he had been and where he was going....you're his wife. There's no one closer than that...
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