I would like to hear from folks what their opinions are regarding the advice that is usually given this time of year about Dealing With The Holidays?
It's not that I want to disrespect anyone's ideas, and I've only been widowed for five months (my husband died on 29 June 2009) - I've been reading a lot of things, and I have to admit that many of them leave me kind of cold - not that the ideas aren't good ones: getting out of the house, volunteering, spending time with friends, knowing your limitations, etc
It's just that I guess I'm looking for the "magic wand" that will dispel all the grief and pain...or I'm looking for validation for my desire to kind of spend the holidays alone (when I mention this to people, the reaction is Gasp! Horror! Shock! [ha])