Denise,I lost my husband of 44 yrs.on 9/13/09.And the answer is YES.I'm so tired of being sad,That is just not me.The 7 mo.anniversary was on last Tues.And for some reason it floored me.What worries me is every time I express myself,my daughter becomes So upset,that I wind up consoling her.So it's like I can't let my guard down.You're right about things being a chore,I can't seem to get organized.In the first weeks after he passed I got alot accomplished,but now I procrastinate.I guess it will take time.In the mean time,we just plug along.I wish I knew the answer.Kathy
I know how you feel. My husband has been gone 22 months 11 days. I still cry and have so much pain inside. People have gone on with therre life and it is so hard. I have two children my oldest turned 16 yesterday which was so hard without Barry here and my youngest is 6. There are days I would just love to stay in bed but my kids are the reason I get up in the morning. Some days I just have to put on a happy face just to go face the world. Barry was everything to me. We were together for almost 24 years. Peolle were have not gone though a lost od a spouse who helped you do everyday things do not understand. He was the person that made me feel better when things went wrong, he is the one I told everything to. He helped with the kids and so that is all gone now. I miss him everyday and wish he was here. Mu kids miss him to but they don't like to see me cry/ I try not to in front of them but it is so hard. Before Barry passed away they had not seen me cry but maybe a few times so it is hard for them. Barry was the handy man around the house. He could fix anything so we had never had to hire anyone to come into the house. That is so hard too. I wish there was a easy answer to all of this. I ask God everyday fo rthe strength to make it though the day. So far I have mnade it.
Denise, I understand what you are going through. I'm very sorry for the loss of your husband. Denise, be gentle on yourself. This is quite a life changing ordeal. Just take it moment by moment. My husband passed 2/7/09 from lymphoma. I'm so tired of the word cancer, hospice, hospitals, doctors, etc. I feel your pain. I was just crying today. Let the tears flow, don't hold back. It's not a easy, but it you need to do the best that you can, and don't beat yourself up. If you're not having a good day then express that to someone. If you need to email me, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org we can exchange numbers for support. People need people.
My name is Dotti
I can so truly relate to everyting everyone has said. Donnie and I were married for 38 years. In all that time I worked along with him but when it came to handling the bills he did it. I never had to pay a utility or anything. After he retired he did all the shopping. He even put gas in my car every week. He was disgnosed with liver cancer and was gone 3 weeks later so I had just one lesson on how to pay the bills. I also am VERY ANGRY. I so want to blame someone for this horrific disease. I miss him and at times feel like whats the use of going on with this life. My Dr. asked me if I thought I was depressed. I told him YA THINK. what a stupid question. I hate stupid questions an he has a degree. Ladies take care hope to hear from you soon. God Bless
My husband of 32 years was diagnosed in July of lung and bone cancer and died in Oct. My grandson also asks when Pa is coming back. It hurts so much to hear him ask that. It was just about a year ago that his back pain started and it's so hard to think just one year ago he was here and thinking he hurt his back doing heavy work. I feel like I'm living in a bad dream and keep waiting for him to come home.