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Permalink Reply by BoLynn on May 8, 2010 at 11:00pm

Going on 8 months for me and yesterday my roller coaster ride hit bottom again. Connie, those "special" days that we spent with loves are the hardest, but sometimes the dark days just come from nowhere. I had to smile because I called my honey "Toots" sometimes too. We all put one foot in front of the other and try to carry on. Sadly there are some days when just getting out of bed is a chore. Lord please give us strength to carry on.

Permalink Reply by Denise MacCallum on May 9, 2010 at 7:49am

Hi Connie,
I lost my husband almost 7 months ago and I still hate the fact that he is gone from me....He was diagnosed last August and passed away October 09...We didn't even have a chance to except the fact that he had cancer and he was gone...I still cry every day and night...Me and Robbie did everything together...We had 40 great years together but I wanted more....Somedays I still can't believe that he is gone....I have started to do somethings but most of what I do has become chores....I also lost both my parents...I have one daughter and 3 grandchildren...One of the grandchildren keep asking me when Papa is coming back....I just don't know what to say because he is so young....This is the first Mother's Day that Robbie didn't give me a kiss...I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers Connie...I know that it is hard and some people tell me it gets even harder.....Denise MacCallum

Permalink Reply by Hurting on May 9, 2010 at 9:27am

Hi Connie, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad in 1984 to sudden heart attack when he was just 52 years old. I had a full term stillborn daughter in 1993 and now my husband is gone on Dec 23, 2009. So I know all the pains and I know how you feel. Will keep you in my prayers.

Permalink Reply by Sandy on May 9, 2010 at 10:43am

Sandy from Wyo. May you all be blessed with Peace on this Mothers Day. My sweetheart passed Feb 2010. I don't even want to say date sends my mind to that night. He passed on our annversary in a Veterans Hospital. I am still very angry at them and the way were treated for 3 years of fighting to his death with them. But it has been suggested to me to put that on the back burner for now until I regain strength emotionally and physically. Brings me to a question? Did anyone get horribly ill do to the greiving. I do have deseases but I know the difference. Friend took me doctor for first time since the other day. Young male doc. Gave me new anti deppresant. Hope it helps. Thanks for listening Im very grateful I found this site. Sorry about spelling can't think straight. As far as holidays still right now anyway my husband was sick for so long I dont remember or I don't want to the sweet special times on those special days. I'm sure that will come when I hit bottom of reality. There are so many memories 40 years. I want so bad to remember them all. Sorry I am going on and on.

Permalink Reply by Janet Farthing on May 9, 2010 at 9:34pm

Sandy... The question of getting ill, I can tell you in my case yes. My husband passed away March 30, 2010. I have many nights I throw up constantly. The crying gets so bad at times where I can't breathe. Most days I have no energy and feel like I have the flu. -freeze all the time- I live in Alabama so I shouldn't feel so darn cold all the time. I talk to him every night and beg to hear is voice. I just want him back. Prayers for us all.
Janet

Sandy said:

Sandy from Wyo. May you all be blessed with Peace on this Mothers Day. My sweetheart passed Feb 2010. I don't even want to say date sends my mind to that night. He passed on our annversary in a Veterans Hospital. I am still very angry at them and the way were treated for 3 years of fighting to his death with them. But it has been suggested to me to put that on the back burner for now until I regain strength emotionally and physically. Brings me to a question? Did anyone get horribly ill do to the greiving. I do have deseases but I know the difference. Friend took me doctor for first time since the other day. Young male doc. Gave me new anti deppresant. Hope it helps. Thanks for listening Im very grateful I found this site. Sorry about spelling can't think straight. As far as holidays still right now anyway my husband was sick for so long I dont remember or I don't want to the sweet special times on those special days. I'm sure that will come when I hit bottom of reality. There are so many memories 40 years. I want so bad to remember them all. Sorry I am going on and on.