What Day Do You Dread?

I know Wednesday's are very hard for me as that's the day I lost my husband. I always come to all of you here for support that day as I know whatever I write everybody understands. I was wondering if anybody else would like to share their day and little bit of how? Also if you if you need extra support that day or would prefer to be left alone?

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Permalink Reply by BoLynn on May 29, 2010 at 1:42pm

Two days are very hard for me. Saturday and Sunday. These days were "our' days. We swam, we fished, we shopped, we went to the movies...it was our time. I cry a lot on the week ends and yes, I prefer to be alone on those days. Sunday is the worst. My Bo passed on a Sunday afternoon. Tomorrow, Sunday, will make it 9 months to the day that he left me :*(

Permalink Reply by kathleen caylor on May 29, 2010 at 4:40pm

I agree with Tom.But on the 13th of the month I do get real quiet.Sundays have been bad also.But I've been making a consious effort not to drag myself down.Trying real hard not to be sad.I'm so tired of it.I just want to move on.He'll always be with me in heart and soul.I want him to be proud of me.He was in life and I think he would be now.Good Luck,It has taken me this long to reach this point,Kathy

Permalink Reply by Suzanne on May 29, 2010 at 4:47pm

Hi,
Even though my husband passed away early Friday morning somehow the good Lord helps me to sleep (once I get to sleep) during the night every night so thank you, God I don't have a problem with sleeping. But that's not why I dread Friday. It's after I wake up during the day I know that Friday evening will be coming and I get that feeling deep in my soul that overcomes me and I feel the emotional pain coming that I have the entire weekend which is a long wait to Monday morning. It's only during the weekdays that certain errands can be taken care of and I am able to go to appointments and my days can be broken up with a routine, but that doesn't stop fleeting thoughts of memories of Danny. But on the weekend thoughts of sad and good times come and go and knowing he won't be spending time with me for the rest of my life feels like a heavy burden and there are not many "safe" TV programs to distract me and on the weekdays I dread knowing Friday will be coming. So, I just take one day at a time while I'm waiting for God to call me. Everything I do are only temporary distractions until that day comes for me (IN HIS TIME). Sometimes I would rather be by myself but other times I call one of my husband's sisters just to talk when she's available. She's good for a few hours until my emotional pain subsides. But I can't tell her what I share here because she gets upset so I'm still so glad we all have this site to come to. Peace to you all.
Take care,
Suzanne

Permalink Reply by lindarunion on May 29, 2010 at 6:30pm

wedsdays are hard for me too i lost my bestfriend lover husband on wed may 5th at 9.55 p.m icould use allthe support. ican get.lindarunion

Permalink Reply by Barbara Wasilewski on May 29, 2010 at 8:10pm

We never lose the ones we love
For even though they're gone
Within the heart of those who care
Their memory lingers on.
Nothing could be more beautiful
Then the memories I have of you
To me you were someone special
God must have thought so too
All my life I will miss you
Though the years may come and go
But in my heart you will live forever
Because I love you so.

All the days are hard without my husband Tony.

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Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on May 29, 2010 at 8:17pm

Every day I dread after 13 months and 13 days without my wife.Life will never be the same again,ever. I had over 44 years with her and I died when she died. I will always remember this on a plaque....thank you God, for allowing this time together. Am still a zombie and all things now are without her.

Permalink Reply by bc on May 29, 2010 at 9:24pm

Even though every day is tough on me, Wednesdays are especially hard. My husband passed away on Wednesday, August 5, 2009 at 12:47 pm. No matter how hard I try to keep busy it seems every Wednesday at 12:47 pm it all comes back to me, how I felt that day, the events, the hospital...some of it is a blur, but I do feel the pain. Sometimes I just want to be alone at that time, but other times it's good to have a shoulder to cry on. Sunsets are also very difficult for me because we always enjoyed the sunsets together. Many nights I go to the cemetary at sunset so we can be together at that time. I am praying for all of you, my friends that we can support each other and somehow, someday, sometime go on with our lives.

Permalink Reply by Hurting on May 30, 2010 at 10:57am

Barb it's same for me. My husband also left me on Wednesday Dec 23, 2009. Till 2:30 pm he was fine. At 4:35 pm my youngest 15 yr old came to give him phone he was sleeping on the sofa. He tried to wake him up but he never did and just 25 min ago he had talked to my youngest son sending him out to shovel. I came home at 5:30 pm not knowing anything. My oldest son took me straight to hospital, he told me in the way that dad had heart attack but none of us expected this. I am still reeling from the shock of chaplain telling me that they couldn't revive him. What are they trying to say? My husband is the most alive person I ever knew. All the time in hospital I kept on thinking probably it is some joke. My husband had a smile on his face, his body was warm and normal. I don't know if this is God's Idea of a joke, it sure sucks.

Barb said:

Even though every day is tough on me, Wednesdays are especially hard. My husband passed away on Wednesday, August 5, 2009 at 12:47 pm. No matter how hard I try to keep busy it seems every Wednesday at 12:47 pm it all comes back to me, how I felt that day, the events, the hospital...some of it is a blur, but I do feel the pain. Sometimes I just want to be alone at that time, but other times it's good to have a shoulder to cry on. Sunsets are also very difficult for me because we always enjoyed the sunsets together. Many nights I go to the cemetary at sunset so we can be together at that time. I am praying for all of you, my friends that we can support each other and somehow, someday, sometime go on with our lives.

Permalink Reply by Fernandohulya on May 30, 2010 at 11:31am

Hurting, for me Thursday is not even a day in a calender. I am trying to accept this day especially the evenings to so my children do not have to because of their schools, staying back for drama or for sports or IT. BUT IT IS THE 25TH who bugs me the number, always going to be for the rest of my life. What you like to do? If you want me to be there for Wednesdays, I will be online!!!

with lots of hugs

Permalink Reply by Tracie on May 30, 2010 at 12:17pm

Suzanne said:

Hi,
Even though my husband passed away early Friday morning somehow the good Lord helps me to sleep (once I get to sleep) during the night every night so thank you, God I don't have a problem with sleeping. But that's not why I dread Friday. It's after I wake up during the day I know that Friday evening will be coming and I get that feeling deep in my soul that overcomes me and I feel the emotional pain coming that I have the entire weekend which is a long wait to Monday morning. It's only during the weekdays that certain errands can be taken of and I am able to go to appointments and my days can be broken up with a routine, but that doesn't stop fleeting thoughts of memories of Danny. But on the weekend thoughts of sad and good times come and go and knowing he won't be spending time with me for the rest of my life feels like a heavy burden and there are not many "safe" TV programs to distract me and on the weekdays I dread knowing Friday will be coming. So, I just take one day at a time while I'm waiting for God to call me. Everything I do are only temporary distractions until that day comes for me (IN HIS TIME). Sometimes I would rather be by myself but other times I call one of my husband's sisters just to talk when she's available. She's good for a few hours until my emotional pain subsides. But I can't tell her what I share here because she gets upset so I'm still so glad we all have this site to come to. Peace to you all.
Take care,
Suzanne

Permalink Reply by Tracie on May 30, 2010 at 12:30pm

Suzanne,
Even though I have only been coming here for a little over a week, I have observed one thing-even with all our pain and hurt,we are all survivors.We comfort each other,give words of encouragement,try to push our pain away by helping someone else.We all miss our spouse and want to be together NOW but since this is impossible,we try to hang on as best we can.We don`t let go even though it feels like the boat is sinking fast.When my husband was very ill,I could not help but tell him I probably would not be able to survive without him.He emphatically told me that he was trying everything(chemo,radition)to live and keep living for another day.He said it was crazy for me to not want to be here just because he wasn`t.His will to live and the desire to go on was inspiring.So when the times get real tough,and sometimes they are paralyzing-I remember what he said-we will be together again but until then enjoy life-he wishes he could have.Thanks to everyone for your support.>Tracie said:

Suzanne said:
Hi,
Even though my husband passed away early Friday morning somehow the good Lord helps me to sleep (once I get to sleep) during the night every night so thank you, God I don't have a problem with sleeping. But that's not why I dread Friday. It's after I wake up during the day I know that Friday evening will be coming and I get that feeling deep in my soul that overcomes me and I feel the emotional pain coming that I have the entire weekend which is a long wait to Monday morning. It's only during the weekdays that certain errands can be taken of and I am able to go to appointments and my days can be broken up with a routine, but that doesn't stop fleeting thoughts of memories of Danny. But on the weekend thoughts of sad and good times come and go and knowing he won't be spending time with me for the rest of my life feels like a heavy burden and there are not many "safe" TV programs to distract me and on the weekdays I dread knowing Friday will be coming. So, I just take one day at a time while I'm waiting for God to call me. Everything I do are only temporary distractions until that day comes for me (IN HIS TIME). Sometimes I would rather be by myself but other times I call one of my husband's sisters just to talk when she's available. She's good for a few hours until my emotional pain subsides. But I can't tell her what I share here because she gets upset so I'm still so glad we all have this site to come to. Peace to you all.
Take care,
Suzanne

Permalink Reply by Hurting on May 30, 2010 at 7:12pm

This is a very nice poem Barbara! Thanks for sharing! But what about that slight touch you feel when passing each other? What about that secret smile at that shared joke that only you both understand? What about when you have tears in your eyes and it hurts your partner?

Barbara Wasilewski said:

We never lose the ones we love
For even though they're gone
Within the heart of those who care
Their memory lingers on.
Nothing could be more beautiful
Then the memories I have of you
To me you were someone special
God must have thought so too
All my life I will miss you
Though the years may come and go
But in my heart you will live forever
Because I love you so.

All the days are hard without my husband Tony.