Has anyone told you "he's in a better place now". Sorry, but that is not the place that I would want for him right now. Or "at least he is not hurting anymore". What about how I am hurting? Does anyone understand that? And you are absolutely right about "how are you" How the heck does anyone think you are!!!!!! You are feeling like somebody just stuck their hand in your chest and pulled your heart out, that is how you are!!!! People mean well but they can say the darndest things. I also had a 'friend' tell me that I should get over it because half of us are going to have to go through the same thing. I would have liked to tell her that I really hope it is her that goes through this. Needless to say, I have had very little contact with her since then. People are people and they say and do things that they should think before they talk. Somehow we will all get through this.