So many beautiful years of memories. We are all actors on a stage pretending that we are doing well for the sake of our family. The members on this forum know only to well how you really feel. Do what you have to do. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I will not wish you a Happy Birthday because that's another stupid thing people will say, not thinking of your situation. I will wish you strength and grace to make it through the day and the next. (((Judy)))
I have the same dilemma so I wish I could help you. Danny and I met on September 11, 1970, his birthday is September 16, my birthday is August 11 and we were married by the J.P. on August 12, the very next day in 1972. On All Saints Day, November 1, 1974 we were married by a priest to solemnize the Sacrament of Matrimony which we really wanted in the first place, but we were happy. On Valentine's Day by simple coincidence it was February 14, 2009 we went to Church and renewed our marriage vows during the Mass with any other couples who happened to be there. I never imagined we were not going to be able to talk about our renewal vows the next Valentine's Day of 2010 because he passed away January 22, 2010. I was the only one of 7 siblings that married and stayed together for so long until he died. I always bragged about it to anyone who would listen that were together for that long. Now, I'm just heartsick and devastated and I want to not even mention it anymore to family or anyone. I never want to celebrate another birthday, and hope noone remembers, mine or Dan's. I'm just telling you all of us because believe me when I say I understand exactly how you feel. For whatever it's worth in my opinion you should do whatever you want to do, be with your family, stay close to those who love you, and remember it's just a day to be loved by those who are still here and if you feel like crying, it's understandable. May somehow your day be brighter. I wish you peace. I will remember you in my prayers. I hope you feel better.
God bless you,
Judy,Tim is probably trying to fix your dilema.Broken bridge so you don't have to eat cake and broken phone so you don't have to put on a false front!Just think of him and smile,he's still taking care of you.Hope you get through it O.K.