Hello Cindy, My name is Tom.
My wife Loni was in stage four also and was told she had beaten her cancer and was cancer free. Then two months later she died. It had come back and was in her upper spine and terminal. 9 days in the hospital and she was unconscious all but one day. The third day Loni woke back up and was clear minded, but couldn't talk. Loni took my hand and put it to her mouth like she was going to kiss me. Instead she put my finger in her mouth and bit me hard, then smiled at me. That made me laugh, because I knew what she ment. Loni was telling me she loved me the way she knew I would understand. We have 11 cats and all of them would bite Loni's finger to show their affection. I kissed Loni when I had to go home and that was the last time Loni was awake. Later that night Loni went unconsious again and never woke back up. Loni's end was terrible also. I don't think about that, I remember Loni biting my finger instead.
Hello Tom, Glad to meet you. I dont know about you, but I was astounded by how brutul cancer can be. I luckily never really have been around anyone that ever had cancer. Like I said before it was a real eye opening experience for me. My husband didnt even have any signs of anything at all until one day he woke up with double vision. At that point he went to his family dr. and the dr. ordered a mri and a ct. Results came back showing two tumors on the brain. One was on the brain stem. I have learned that is the worse place you can have a tumor. It controls everything. Dr. could tell by looking at the mri and ct that the tumors on the brain had metastized from some other location. So further testing took place and found out the cancer had started in the lung. By the time cancer has metastized it is usually a stage 4 and not very good news. We were told if he had treatment he could last for 10 months, but even though he did take 12 radiation treatments and 1 chemo treatment, I truly believe it didnt help. He went very quickly like I said. He really believed he would beat it, or at least was putting up a good front for my sake. He really felt so bad because he didnt want to leave me alone. I think he knew I wouldnt do too well being without him.I am glad I have found this chat room because I am hoping it will help me not to feel so alone. I dont have a computer at home, so I use my computer at work. I found this site while looking at the obits from our local paper.By the way, that is a beautiful picture of Loni.Well need to sign off now, it is time for me to clock out for the night.
Loni was so intelligent, religious, and beautiful inside and out.
To watch Loni laugh was beautiful also. I did my best to make Loni laugh every day just to watch her. I would sing silly songs in the morning to all of our cats and hear Loni laughing in the bedroom. Loni was nothing but elegant and Loving.
Loni gave a speach to our board of supervisers in our home town about rent control and got a standing ovation by all there, including the board of supervisers.
Then they voted against what Loni had spoke about anyway. Even after they said how elegant she was. They are now being sued for not even reading any of the material brought before them and voting the way they did.
Loni's mother, and my mother were from Chicago, and lived less than a mile from each other. They even had the same last maiden name. Loni was born in Chicago and grew up there, and knew where my mother went to high school. Her mother went to the same high school. When we went to get our marriage licence and wrote our mothers maiden names we got a funny look from the clerk. I wanted to tell them we were kissing cousins!