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Permalink Reply by heather on July 16, 2010 at 1:02pm

my prayers are with you in your time of grief, I too lost my mother-in-law and my childrens grandmother 2 months after my husband passed away it was tough and I wonder why sometimes why these events happen. God Bless

Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on July 16, 2010 at 1:24pm

Thank you Kathy and to all. We all do care and share and thats what it is all about. Its been rough lately. On top of all of this is still the fact that I cannot deal with my life alone without my wife.But my family and I know my wife elbowed the angels away to personally take her great grandson into heaven with her. I am crying now and hate my "new life". My plate is overflowing with deaths and dying and I wonder how we can take such devistation without completely "losing" it. My entire being has disappeared and I have nothing left and no one to help share it with anymore.Thanks for sharing and caring for only we can totally understand. Thanks for your prayers also.Hugs to all. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by kathy obiedzinski on July 16, 2010 at 1:33pm

randolph: please do me a favor do not think of doing any thing stupid because i feel you are giving up on life. i know we can take so much i understand you are going thru a really rough time more than others please if you want i will like to call you tonight and talk maybe i can make you feel better. i would also like to send to a sympathy card for your loss of your grandchild if possible let me know what time if you want me to call you take care and bless you

Permalink Reply by Suzanne on July 16, 2010 at 2:12pm

Hi Kathy,
You and Randolph and everyone here are already in my prayers. Thank you for reminding us all. I know it is especially hard and very sad to lose a newborn because Danny's niece had a granddaughter who passed away only after living for 4 hours and it was last June of 09 after the mother went through the entire pregnancy, the ultrasounds were all excellent, the big baby shower was given and the parents were about to take her home, they had no idea they would be having a funeral Mass for her instead of taking her home to her 3 year old sister. I went to this service 2 days after my 42 year old nephew's funeral which was 3 months after my mother's funeral (This one was the last funeral that my husband and I attended together.) That's just 3 of many many deaths that our family has had to endure. It's so sad. You and everyone here are in my thoughts and prayers and may we all have peace somehow.
God bless and sending you hugs. You are so thoughtful.
Suzanne

Permalink Reply by Fernandohulya on July 16, 2010 at 3:20pm

I do not really normally pray because i have lost some faith but I will pray for him to keep strong , so Randolph we are here for you and thinking of you.

lost of hugs

Permalink Reply by Hurting on July 16, 2010 at 4:16pm

Randolph, be strong. We just talked last night about all this remember. Will pray for you and all family. Take care.

Randolph L. Schrader said:

Thank you Kathy and to all. We all do care and share and thats what it is all about. Its been rough lately. On top of all of this is still the fact that I cannot deal with my life alone without my wife.But my family and I know my wife elbowed the angels away to personally take her great grandson into heaven with her. I am crying now and hate my "new life". My plate is overflowing with deaths and dying and I wonder how we can take such devistation without completely "losing" it. My entire being has disappeared and I have nothing left and no one to help share it with anymore.Thanks for sharing and caring for only we can totally understand. Thanks for your prayers also.Hugs to all. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by CINDY POWELL on July 16, 2010 at 4:18pm

randolph,
i am so sorry to hear of another loss for you. i know it has to be hard, even though i havent personally so far had to experience it. so i wont say i know what you are going through. i want you to know i do feel your pain about loosing your wife and i am here for you anytime you need to talk. if anyone ever feels comfortable enough to give out a phone number i would be willing to call too. i want to help other grieving people all that i can.

Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on July 16, 2010 at 4:59pm

Heather,Suzanne,Hurting,Cindy,Kathy,Kathy O.,and Fernandohulya, THANK YOU for all of your kindness and compassion and thoughts and prayers. Things are not going well for me as you know. It just leads us back to the "main event". Not having our loved one with us to share and to be with. I miss my wife sooo bad.
Fernadohulya...I tried to comment back to your 2 postings but after I typed the messages and send it, it said "comment must be approved by everyone to see". I did try but it wouldnt send. Hugs to all. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by Connie on July 16, 2010 at 7:11pm

Randolph, I am sure that your hurt must be beyond belief. I don't know how I could deal with all you have been going through. I am having such a difficult time of accepting my husband's death that I don't know how you can deal with more on top of the loss of your wife. Randolph, just remember we are all here for you. I know you would prefer to have your wife with you just as I would prefer to have Phil with me but since that is not possible, we, on this site, are here for each other. Please don't hesitate to lean on everyone else because we are all leaning on you too. May God Bless you and give you the strength to go on.

Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on July 16, 2010 at 10:28pm

Thank you Connie. My plate is overflowing but the fact remains, REALITY. My wife is not with me to comfort and share. Thanks for this site. Hugs to all. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by Dixie Olson on July 17, 2010 at 1:10am

Kathy: re: prayer
FATHER GOD* I ask that you give your grace and peace to each member here, let
them know they are never alone, and while they are going through there grief and pain, let them know that grief is a journey however painfull, and we each must go through it, there are so many stages and each person handles it in there own way. Give them strenght to fight through this battle, Please guide them to not shut other family members out, for those who feel like they dont want to live or go on, show them the people that they will hurt and leave behind.{ If you dont believe in God, I dont mean to offend anyone here for what I believe in }I
pray in the name of JESUS...amen and amen *
you might feel better if you write in a journal all the things you have gone through towards your healing
It may help to get a journal and gather your family or friends to make a memory
journal, bring pitcures, or poems, pressed flowers, what ever you want, an ask each person to share the best memory of your loved one, you can add to it maybe for a few months or even years, then when you feel you have healed gather around the table with the ones who added to you book, you will be surprized how many happy memories you and your family have at that person

Permalink Reply by bc on July 17, 2010 at 11:10am

Randolph, you know I am here for you, as is everyone else. We can lean on each other. It was nice talking with you last night and getting to know more about you and your wonderful wife. Its surprising how many things we all have in common. I will be thinking of you and sending hugs your way, as you always say, "Hugs are good"! That's what gets us through.
Take care, I'm here for you.
Barb

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