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Permalink Reply by Suzanne on July 30, 2010 at 4:56pm

Hi BoLynn,
It is so good that you are able to remember your husband through creativity with his pictures. I really mean that. Others also have a flair for an imaginative way to pay tribute and think of their loved ones with affection and fondness because of their special love. I'm glad that you can do this because it is extremely hard for me to look at Dan's pictures. I'm really glad that all I have are still pictures and pictures on my PC that I try not to look at because when I remember that he was once actually here it is much too painful for my heart to bear. There are some members of the family that have us on video. I just couldn't look and if I had them in my possession I would destroy them. Well, maybe I would give them back to the ones who own them but I could never, ever look at his moving pictures. If I ever would be one to take my life, and I'm not, all I need to do is look at him on these videos because my heart would be crushed. I know I speak hypothetically, but this is how I truly feel. If I haven't said this before, I am so sorry for your loss and your sorrow. Take care.
God bless,
Suzanne

Permalink Reply by BoLynn on July 30, 2010 at 6:11pm

Thank you Suzanne.
Every one grieves in their own way. I surround myself with his pictures and look at them everyday. I have a video of him in the hospital telling everyone he will be alright and I watch it every once in a while. I have tons of pictures of us in happy, healthy days and they are bitter sweet to look at. I also have some, like the one I posted where he was clearly very, very ill. When I look at those, I thank the Lord he went home. I see the suffering and pain in his face. I see what this horror called cancer did to his body. It helps to let him go. No more suffering and pain.

With Warm Aloha, Linda

Permalink Reply by Tom on July 30, 2010 at 6:31pm

Hello Linda,
I too like to see the pictures I have of my Loni. I have a video of our wedding and the reception afterwards, that I haven't looked at yet. I think I am strong enough to do that now, just to lazy to hook up the VCR !
I'd love to see Loni moving about greeting everyone with her style and grace.

It would bring me to tears, but good ones !

Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on July 30, 2010 at 7:35pm

Hi to all, my wife always had a smile. She hated having pictures taken of her but she always smiled in them as she did at me whenever I came around her. Bless her heart. I miss LouAnn.Hugs to all. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by Kim on July 30, 2010 at 7:49pm

Suzanne,
I too have a hard time looking at my husbands pictures. At first I want to look at them so I can see his handsome face and our happy times together but then I break down and have to close the photo album. It is so hard. I haven't been able to watch our wedding tape yet, I know it will crush me because I no longer have Jerry in my life although he will always be in my heart.

BoLynn...Your picture of you and your husband is beautiful!

Suzanne said:

Hi BoLynn,
It is so good that you are able to remember your husband through creativity with his pictures. I really mean that. Others also have a flair for an imaginative way to pay tribute and think of their loved ones with affection and fondness because of their special love. I'm glad that you can do this because it is extremely hard for me to look at Dan's pictures. I'm really glad that all I have are still pictures and pictures on my PC that I try not to look at because when I remember that he was once actually here it is much too painful for my heart to bear. There are some members of the family that have us on video. I just couldn't look and if I had them in my possession I would destroy them. Well, maybe I would give them back to the ones who own them but I could never, ever look at his moving pictures. If I ever would be one to take my life, and I'm not, all I need to do is look at him on these videos because my heart would be crushed. I know I speak hypothetically, but this is how I truly feel. If I haven't said this before, I am so sorry for your loss and your sorrow. Take care.
God bless,
Suzanne

Permalink Reply by Mary on July 30, 2010 at 8:47pm

BoLynn,
That was just beautiful. Each and everyone of us is able, I'm sure, to put our love for our lost spouse in that song. Thank you for sharing it with us. I too surround myself with pictures of my husband. I have no problems with looking at them and I am thankful for each one I have. As his daughter has said, she can just see the love we had for each other in the pictures. I found a real treasure today. I remembered a CD that was sent to me several years ago. My husband had called into a talk radio show---this particular topic was about budgets. He wanted to share with the listeners, how proud he was of me and how well I kept the budget, and the things we were able to do and have because of it. I had forgotten about it. But I have my husbands voice on a CD. I cried sad tears as well as joyful and elated tears just to hear his voice. God bless you with happy memories.