My husband has been gone almost 1 year and its been very hard. But I think the hardest part was my friends saying stuff like, get over it, move on with your life,ect... They just could not understand..I found this little note and it has helped me. It is not my words but it says what I feel. So Here go." I believe grief is a process that involes a lot of time, energy and determination. I won`t GET OVER IT in a hurry, so don`t rush me. I believe grief is intensly PERSONAL. This is my grief. Don`t tell me what is right or wrong. I`m doing it my way, in my time. I believe grief is affecting me in many ways. I am being affect spiritually, physically, emotionlly,socially, and mentally.If I am not acting like my old self, it`s because I`m not my old self and some days I don`t understand my self. I believe I will be affected in some ways by this loss for the rest of my life. As I get older, I will have new insight into what this death means to me. My loved one will CONTINUE to be part of my life and influence me until the day I die. I believe I am being changed by the process. I see life differently. Some things that were once important to me, aren`t any more. Some things I use to PAY little or no attentions to are now important. I think a new me is emerging, so don`t be surpised....And don`t stand in my way" I hope this can help some of you who are going though the same thing. God bless you all.