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Oh Julie - I am so sorry you are hurting so much. I can understand your sorrows and it is okay to cry over losing someone so precious - add to that your mother dying, losing your home and job - those are huge losses. I can see why your dog has become so important to you - he is the one stability you can depend on right now. If you feel you cannot go or are not up to it - that is your choice and no one elses. Would they allow you to take the dog along? If so, maybe it would be good to go. What do your other siblings think is going on? Is is possible that the spouses are excluded so that you guys as siblings can have some special time together and also for your benefit since you lost your spouse? I don't know your family or your sister but maybe they are trying to do something nice for you to get you away.
I know when I am depressed I tend to withdraw and when someone pushes me to do something, I actually feel better after having done it most of the time. Celebrating the birthday in July may just be a spin off from the Christmas in July stuff. Having a birthday at Christmas time can be overshadowed sometimes I suppose with holiday festivites, etc.
As far as your daughter, I am sure she loves you very much but may not know what to do to help you. Her mother in law and her have a bond because of their faith and her mother in law isn't going through the things that you are going through. I suspect when she sees you hurting she feels sad - for some that is too hard and they retreat from us rather than try to help us. Medication may help - you have many reasons to be depressed! I attend church but I can tell you there are some Sundays I just need to stay home - it is too hard for me. My prayers will be with you Julie - may you receive a special blessing of comfort today.
Sheryl
Dear Julie - yes, anniversaries hurt; they're like a dagger to the heart, soul and brain. Birthdays, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Valentine's Day - all of these add to the hurt as well. I am so very sorry over the death of your beloved husband - about all the things you will not be able to do together, about losing his strength and love.
29 June is a very hard day for me....the day when my sweetie, His Lordship the Psy.D. died.....I managed to get through the first one (he died in 2009); I am just not thinking about 29 June 2011 as yet......
Peace, comfort, healing and blessing be upon and with you - Yaca Attwood Perkins
Julie like you it's going on 3 yrs that my husband passed and I am still feeling his loss hard some days. A lady friend of mine just married a widower of one year....I don't know how someone can recover like that. Maybe it's a guy thing. For myself I still feel married, if I could have a male friend it would have to be someone like myself still 'in love' with his spouse and more like a brother. I have lady friends, but all of them are married, and working. (I'm retired and happy to be!) I've taken up learning to knit, watch old movies on my tv (don't have cable), have recently taken to the computer for comfort, and generally am a loner with my OLD dog too. She is a great comfort to me. Last Oct I had to put her 'puppy' 11 yr old Phoebe down as she had a growth in her mouth and throat. It was devistating. It may be childish to think of Phoebe and her 'daddy' in heaven together but that is what I want to think and take some comfort in it. He loved both dogs so much! Somedays I wonder what the future will hold for me and other days I feel like I could care less. I take comfort near the ocean (always have) but it's a long drive from my home.And becasue of my old dog I can't stay away from home too long. I know we can feel better about our loved ones eventually, but how do we get through the todays?
Julie like you it's going on 3 yrs that my husband passed and I am still feeling his loss hard some days. A lady friend of mine just married a widower of one year....I don't know how someone can recover like that. Maybe it's a guy thing. For myself I still feel married, if I could have a male friend it would have to be someone like myself still 'in love' with his spouse and more like a brother. I have lady friends, but all of them are married, and working. (I'm retired and happy to be!) I've taken up learning to knit, watch old movies on my tv (don't have cable), have recently taken to the computer for comfort, and generally am a loner with my OLD dog too. She is a great comfort to me. Last Oct I had to put her 'puppy' 11 yr old Phoebe down as she had a growth in her mouth and throat. It was devistating. It may be childish to think of Phoebe and her 'daddy' in heaven together but that is what I want to think and take some comfort in it. He loved both dogs so much! Somedays I wonder what the future will hold for me and other days I feel like I could care less. I take comfort near the ocean (always have) but it's a long drive from my home.And becasue of my old dog I can't stay away from home too long. I know we can feel better about our loved ones eventually, but how do we get through the todays?
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