Any little thing that might help, even for a little while?

Does anyone have anything they do, or have found or tried that helps with the emptiness? It hasn't been a month yet for me so still staying focused on the minutia. Closing credit cards, donating clothes to local veterans home, food I don't eat to food pantry.
Have to get back to work tomorrow and have been trying to prepare myself for being back out with the public. Not looking forward to coming home to emptiness, eating by myself, laying in bed by myself not sleeping.
Even finished the books on widowhood I had bought. Anyone have any tips for getting thru the days?

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Permalink Reply by bc on September 23, 2010 at 9:38pm

Audrey, we are all in this "so called life" together, you have found the right place! It's been 13-1/2 months for me alone and somedays seem better than others but there's not a day that goes by, not a minute that I don't wish my best friend and soulmate wasn't right next to me. We spent 24/7 together and one day he was just gone! I know I'll never really get over this and I will never be the same person I used to be, but for Brad I know I have to try and be positive. He always taught me that, so I'm doing it for him. I'm starting a new job next week but Im afraid of the "meltdown times". I think being with people and keeping busy is a good thing for us. Coming home is hard, but let the tears out, they are healing. If you ever want to talk, give me a call. 414-852-3422. If I don't answer leave me a message and I'll call you back. We all need someone to talk to who understands. Love to you and I pray you have a restful night. Hugs to you

Permalink Reply by Connie on September 23, 2010 at 9:49pm

Audrey, there is no simple answer to tell you how to get through these awful days. It will be 11 months soon that my husband and absolute best friend passed away. It will be 1 year on Oct 5th that he went to the hospital but before the ambulance took him he said to me "Hon, I don't think I am going to make it this time." I hear that in my head over and over. It just breaks my heart because I did think that he would recover just as he always had in the past. Up to the moment that I got the call from the hospital that his heart rate was in free fall that I had to believe that he was not going to come home to me. By the time I could get to the hospital, he was gone. I, too, do not work because of a disability but I have been able to retire and we did have about 5 years of being together all the time. I miss him with all my heart and just wait for the day that we are reunited again. Audrey, I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that you will have the strength to go on day by day, hour by hour and minute by minute. That is all that you can do right now. You will have meltdowns. That is to be expected. All I can say is that you have found a very valuable resource - this website. There are really great people on this site and they are always so very helpful. And everyone here understands what you are feeling because they are feeling the same thing. May God Bless You and I will remember you in my prayers.