they want to bury my Johns urn with his dad they wouldn,t guve me anything.I have rights and my husband did to.They haven,t talked to me since John died.Cause they felt I didn,t fix John or bury him.he didn,t want to be buried.I do not want a few ashes I want the urn that I paid for with my John in it.I called its against the law with put a urn in someones coffin or grave unless its known and recorded by the state.Everyone has the right to where they r buried if put in a grave.John won,t have one.Its my inlaws graves not my Johns or mine.Its against the law.Or we all could throw anything or anybody we wanted in the grave.How would u feel your body just thrown somewhere.I don,t care of people think I,m nuts but i wouldn,t want someone to just get rid of my body.He is my Husband and he had my blesssings that I,d do the right thing I promised him I would carry out his wishes when I was ready.
I would call the police. You're his wife and those ashes were yours not your daughter's to do what you need to do. Are you the executor of his "estate" - whatever that might be? I hate to put it this way but the ashes have become a "possession" and even if you let your daughter watch over them for a time, they didn't belong to her. Did you pay the crematorium for them and do you have a receipt? That would be your best line of defense concerning proving who they belong to. If you had a will that stated any of what you said, that would be great, but it can't be required. You "own" the ashes and the police have the power to get them back for you since they are currently stolen property. You should file a report immediately and also call the funeral home handling the father's remains to let them know that you are the rightful owner and you won't allow this to happen. Now, go call the police.
You have to move quick or forever be sorry.