I am so sorry for your loss. Losing your love so suddenly and so young is so hard. I can't know exactly how you feel, but I truly understand the devastation.
I don't believe that when our loves pass on they have any feeling but love...there is no anger; he's not mad at you. I have heard that sometimes the veil of sadness is so profound that our loved ones cannot get to us until we are able to pull out of our sadness a little and get through the cloud of grief and that takes time...sometimes a lot of time. The grief doesn't go away and the sadness doesn't end, somehow it changes and shifts just a little bit.
It took me a long time to have dreams about Tom and when I did at first they were all very mean, angry dreams. Tom was agitated and angry and would not even hug me in the dreams. So, as relieved as I was that I was dreaming about him, the dreams themselves were a bit disturbing. After a few months the dreams started becoming less angry and he slowly would hug and even kissed me once in a dream. I did have one night, months after he passed (actually it was the first night I was home alone...my house is chaotic and there is always someone around), I layed down and asked him to come to me...I just needed to feel him close to me...I had just closed my eyes and I literally felt pressure on my back and around my arms (I was laying face down) and I know it was him giving me the hug I needed so desperately. I had heard people tell these types of stories before and I would just kind of say oh, yeah, okay, never really believing it. Well, I became a believer that night. It was so real and so confirming for me. I made the mistake of opening my eyes and when I did it was all over. I tried so hard to get the feeling back, but it didn't happen. But I know for those few minutes Tom was here, close to me, hugging me, and it was so what I needed at that moment.
I haven't had a dream of him in months. Each night I ask him to come to me and give me a good dream, but I'm still waiting.
It's hard to be patient and wait for that dream, but I think it will happen. Keep asking and one night you will be surprised. I hope it happens for you soon.
For me it was about 5 months after my husband passed and I had a dream totally unexpected, I wasn't wanting or not wanting to dream of him because it hurt when thoughts of when he was well came to me during my waking hours and it is just as painful when thoughts of him came to me when he was in different stages of being sick. But early one July morning when I was in REM stages of dreaming I saw him sitting on a green couch in a house I used to live in and I was so gloriously happy and was ecstatic as I said to him, "Your not really gone," and I was kissing his face and throwing my arms around him, hugging him and said what would you like me to get for you, tea, anything, are you hungry. He was smiling and laughing. Then I said to him , "I have to get my camera, just wait right there so I can take a picture of you to prove to everyone that your not gone" and I thought at this moment that I was awake and it was real and I kept my eyes on him and I glanced for a second to go for my camera and he was gone, and I turned quickly and caught him by the arm and he was standing and in a split second he had long gray hair, which I immediately knew that this meant his time with me was supposed to have been over but I didn't want him to go, and although he looked a little scary because of his very long grey hair I wasn't scared and I woke up in that second and burst into tears because I thought to myself, it was a dream, and then, just like in the movie (A Christmas Carol) I said out loud, but what if it wasn't (a dream) and I believe from what someone told me that I got a visit from Danny. I really believe this. So, I just wanted to tell you about my experience because I'm thinking maybe you'll have a 'visit' when the time is right for you. Just maybe if you don't force the dream, Jason will come to you in dreams or signs, we just have to be open for them. I don't mean to make you believe what I do, I'm just speaking for myself but I pray you have peace. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I truly know how you feel.