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Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on October 6, 2010 at 9:42am

Welcome Kathy King, we are all here for you. Hugs to you. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by Connie on October 6, 2010 at 2:18pm

Kathy, This is probably your most valuable discovery for what you are living through. The people on this site are the best friends and confidants that you will have right now. I can honestly say that I consider most of the people on this site to be my best friends even though we have never and probably will never meet. They are compassionate and understand just what you are feeling. You can pour your heart out and no one will criticize you because we all understand. I lost my husband 11 months ago and life has been a living hell since then. I miss him so very much. My children spend a lot of time with me but that is just not the same. They can never replace their Dad. I wait for the day that I am by his side again. I am so very sorry for your loss and will be here if you need to talk. May God Bless You.

Permalink Reply by Mary on October 6, 2010 at 2:47pm

Kathy, I am so sorry you are here with us. None of us wants to be here at all. But we are, and I can tell you, like the others will, that it is a great site, with a lot of wonderful people, whom I consider my friends. My husband died on Feb 7th of 2010, just a few weeks before yours. I have come a long way on this journey of grief. I have gone through many peaks and valleys and I know I will come out on top. There was a time I felt like I would never be happy again, but I wanted to be ok. I can say now that I am ok, and hopefully will be "happy" with life again. I loved my husband very much, and will miss him always. As I move forward, the memories of the wonderful man I married will sustain me until we meet again someday.
Hang in here with us. You can express your feeling, good or bad, no one will judge you. We have all been there. Hugs to you.

Permalink Reply by Virginia on October 6, 2010 at 2:59pm

Kathy, I'm sorry for your loss. This site is just wonderfull, we know we care and when we can't express ourselves, to our familys this is OUR place to come and let loose, if you can see thru the tears to write lol, but it feels good to express ourselves without judgement. HUGS

Permalink Reply by Nancy Satterthwaite on October 6, 2010 at 6:46pm

Welcome Kathy,

You have found the place that will bring you some comfort during the difficult time ahead. My husband died on May 1, 2010. This site helped me through the grieving process,which I am still in, and I will be eternally grateful to my friends here, who have patiently listen to my venting and ranting, and not only never judged me, but offered love and support and opinions through it all. Everyone is here for you. I know the loneliness you are speaking of even with your children there. My house sold two weeks before my husband died unexpectedly. I had to move, and my children didn't want me to jump into anything, so I moved in my daughter and son-in-laws home for at least a year. Its a lovely home, but I have little memories here, since most of my things are in storage. It has been very hard for me too. Our husbands are the ones who we told our secrets to, they are the ones that always came to our defense no matter what, they were who we kissed goodnight, and hugged all day long. It is really hard I know, but with everyone here, it will be easier I promise you. The people on this site are the BEST.
God Bless you Kathy,

Nancy

Permalink Reply by Kathy King Kates on October 6, 2010 at 7:16pm

I am just reading and trying to take in all you wonderful friends. I met my dear Bill on the internet just 5 years ago and tho we had a very short time together, it was blessed. We filled our days and he told me his bucket list was complete just a few days before he passed. This was a comfort to know. Nancy, I would be devastated if I had to lose my home in all this. We moved to South Carolina from Los Angeles shortly after our marriage and loved our life here. I guess thats what makes it so difficult not having Bill here sharing it anymore. As I drive down the street I turn to tell him something I've seen or try to share a phone call and oops, no one there. Thank you dear friends for being here.

Nancy Satterthwaite said:

Welcome Kathy,

You have found the place that will bring you some comfort during the difficult time ahead. My husband died on May 1, 2010. This site helped me through the grieving process,which I am still in, and I will be eternally grateful to my friends here, who have patiently listen to my venting and ranting, and not only never judged me, but offered love and support and opinions through it all. Everyone is here for you. I know the loneliness you are speaking of even with your children there. My house sold two weeks before my husband died unexpectedly. I had to move, and my children didn't want me to jump into anything, so I moved in my daughter and son-in-laws home for at least a year. Its a lovely home, but I have little memories here, since most of my things are in storage. It has been very hard for me too. Our husbands are the ones who we told our secrets to, they are the ones that always came to our defense no matter what, they were who we kissed goodnight, and hugged all day long. It is really hard I know, but with everyone here, it will be easier I promise you. The people on this site are the BEST.
God Bless you Kathy,

Nancy

Permalink Reply by Kathy King Kates on October 6, 2010 at 7:28pm

So happy to see that others understand why it is our children can't replace our mates. They hurt too I understand but they just can't know (and I pray they won't have to anytime soon) what losing your soulmate feels like. Bill and I had a short life together but we made the most of every second we had. Nighttime seems to be the very worst. I find I just can't go to bed too early cus the bed is just too too empty. I sleep in my chair until I feel too stupid sitting there and force myself to go up so no one else sees me there. We have 3 beautiful horses that he loved dearly and I find it difficult to enjoy them because it hurts too much. Our dogs have grieved also but are doing better now.

Connie said:

Kathy, This is probably your most valuable discovery for what you are living through. The people on this site are the best friends and confidants that you will have right now. I can honestly say that I consider most of the people on this site to be my best friends even though we have never and probably will never meet. They are compassionate and understand just what you are feeling. You can pour your heart out and no one will criticize you because we all understand. I lost my husband 11 months ago and life has been a living hell since then. I miss him so very much. My children spend a lot of time with me but that is just not the same. They can never replace their Dad. I wait for the day that I am by his side again. I am so very sorry for your loss and will be here if you need to talk. May God Bless You.

Permalink Reply by Marlena on October 6, 2010 at 9:34pm

Kathy,
So sorry for you loss and the need to find us, but welcome to the best place to find comfort and support. We all understand where you are coming from. I have been here from the beginning when Steve Cain started this site (over a year ago) and I am continually adding to my list of Legacy Friends that help me along this journey. We may not talk directly and sometimes not at all, but just reading each others stories and supporting each other on this path makes them all my new found friends.
So, welcome new friend. I hope you will find the peace and comfort you need to go through this journey.

Permalink Reply by Hurting on October 7, 2010 at 10:14pm

Kathy I am very sorry for your loss. I am still trying to cope with loss of my husband who went on December 23, 2009. I have created following two sites:
Following links:
Chat Room:
http://www.chatzy.com/590742467084

Facebook link:
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=109665012419756&v=info

You are welcome to check them out and join if you wish.