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Permalink Reply by Virginia on August 4, 2010 at 7:26am

Tracie, i'm sorry your back again but,this is a good place to be when you need to express your feelings, how long has it been for you ? and did you just recently release your husbands ashes ? if you did i would have to say it was because now that made it finale, i would think it was as if you just lost him all over again. my heart goes out to you, you need to start the grieving process all over again and take baby steps i will keep you in my prayers.

Permalink Reply by kathy obiedzinski on August 4, 2010 at 7:32am

tracie: welcome back tracie i was the same way and still am i do not want to do anything just lay around thank god i have a job to keep me busy but after the job it is go home watch tv put pj's on and go to bed this is the thing i still do. if you need to get everything out of your system please do it is no good to keep it bundle up it must have been hard about his ashes he is free

Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on August 4, 2010 at 9:46am

Tracie, we are all here for you. When I do get to spread LouAnn's ashes in Colorado, I know that I will fall apart again. Its been over 15 months for me and nothing will ever be the same. Hugs to you. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by Janice Jones on August 4, 2010 at 10:04am

Hi Tracy, It has been a little over two years for me and I also thought I was doing good. I do go to a grief doctor and that has helped me a lot. A friend came and stayed with me for a month and I got though David's cloths and did his truck but since she left last Friday I have had a hard time. I want him back so bad and I know that will never happen. He was killed in a car wreck in Alabama. He was working down there and we stayed in our camper. A driver crossed the center line and killed him instantly. I was down there by myself with my two dogs and our bunny. We lived in NC. It was horrible. He was my soul mate and when he died, I died with him. The biggest part of me did. I make myself do things around here saying that it is for us!!! My grief doctor says that the pain will lessen over time and I guess it has but I am having a rough patch right now. Just can't figure out "why" when God knew how much I loved him and needed him. My prayers are with you and keep me in yours. Wish I had something to take away your pain but there is nothing that ever will. I just am trying to take one step at a time and going through the motions until the day that I can be with him again. Janice

Permalink Reply by CINDY POWELL on August 4, 2010 at 5:53pm

TRACIE,
MY HUSBAND PASSED AWAY ON FEB THE 26TH 2010, WE HAD HIS MEMORIAL SERVICE MARCH THE 1ST. HOWEVER DUE TO HIS CHILDREN NEEDING TO GET BACK TO ARIZONA , WE DIDNT BURY THE ASHES UNTIL JULY 26TH. IT WAS LIKE POURING SALT ON AN OPEN WOUND FOR ME. I HAVE FOUND MYSELF FEELING LIKE I AM REALLY GETTING MORE DEPRESSED AS THE DAYS PASS BY.I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT A GRIEF COUNSELOR. I DONT KNOW HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN FOR YOU BUT BE EASY ON YOURSELF. I DO KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE THAT ITS NOT EASY WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOUVE FALLEN IN AN ENDLESS PIT. I AM NOT MOTIVATED TO DO MUCH THESE DAYS.I GO TO WORK,AND THEN TRY AND SLEEP AT NIGHT, BUT IT IS USUALLY 2AM BEFORE I DOZE OFF. SOMETIMES I WILL WAKE UP AS EARLY AS 7AM. SINCE I DONT HAVE TO BE AT WORK TILL 2: 30 PM I JUST LAY THEIR AND THINK.I NEED DESPERATELY TO CLEAN MY HOUSE OR JUST GET MOTIVATED TO DO SOMETHING.BUT I DONT SEEM TO BE ABLE TO MOTIVATE MYSELF TO DO ANYTHING OTHER THAN GO TO WORK. AND I WOULD BE IN REAL FINANCIAL TROUBLE IF I COULDNT DO THAT.WELCOME BACK TRACIE, GO EASY ON YOURSELF.

Permalink Reply by CINDY POWELL on August 4, 2010 at 5:53pm

TRACIE,
MY HUSBAND PASSED AWAY ON FEB THE 26TH 2010, WE HAD HIS MEMORIAL SERVICE MARCH THE 1ST. HOWEVER DUE TO HIS CHILDREN NEEDING TO GET BACK TO ARIZONA , WE DIDNT BURY THE ASHES UNTIL JULY 26TH. IT WAS LIKE POURING SALT ON AN OPEN WOUND FOR ME. I HAVE FOUND MYSELF FEELING LIKE I AM REALLY GETTING MORE DEPRESSED AS THE DAYS PASS BY.I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT A GRIEF COUNSELOR. I DONT KNOW HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN FOR YOU BUT BE EASY ON YOURSELF. I DO KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE THAT ITS NOT EASY WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOUVE FALLEN IN AN ENDLESS PIT. I AM NOT MOTIVATED TO DO MUCH THESE DAYS.I GO TO WORK,AND THEN TRY AND SLEEP AT NIGHT, BUT IT IS USUALLY 2AM BEFORE I DOZE OFF. SOMETIMES I WILL WAKE UP AS EARLY AS 7AM. SINCE I DONT HAVE TO BE AT WORK TILL 2: 30 PM I JUST LAY THEIR AND THINK.I NEED DESPERATELY TO CLEAN MY HOUSE OR JUST GET MOTIVATED TO DO SOMETHING.BUT I DONT SEEM TO BE ABLE TO MOTIVATE MYSELF TO DO ANYTHING OTHER THAN GO TO WORK. AND I WOULD BE IN REAL FINANCIAL TROUBLE IF I COULDNT DO THAT.WELCOME BACK TRACIE, GO EASY ON YOURSELF.