I am just 2 yrs older than you. My husband passed away last week.
We were married for 32 yrs and did everything together. He had coronary artery disease among other things but it all came to a head within a few days. He was doing well and going places.
I just don't know what to do with myself. You talk about the numbness. I feel like i am in a fog and there is a huge hole where my heart is.
How do you manage? The hardest part for me is coming home after work to an empty house. I adopted a dog today and don't know if that was the right thing.
Everyone is sympathetic but they go on with their lives and say it will get better.
It just doesn't help. I go in his room and yell and scream(when he was in the hosp he was fine and the kids and i said we will see you tomorrow. Only there was no tomorrow)
Nancy Satterthwaite said:Teri,
My heart goes out to you. I lost my husband in May after several years of health issues and 28 years of marriage. I am grieving too, but I have to say, what you have been through is horrendous. It is understandable that you are now just grieving. You had your husband's loss of life, your children's injuries, and your injuries too. You were too busy with keeping it all together, and doing the necessary legal and financial obligations to handle the grieving process too. Now that things have calm down a bit for you, it is no wonder why your are going through the hurt and pain now, verses a year ago when all this happened to you. I know the feelings you are going through now, the loneliness, the numbness, the fact that family and friends go on with their lives, and expect you to go on too. But the grieving process is different for everyone. And there is no time limit on when you will start feeling a little better, and ready to find joy again. Since I am older than you (62), my chances of finding true love are pretty slim. You on the other hand, have a long life ahead of you. You will find love again, I know you don't want to hear that right now, but you will. And it won't take away the love and memories you cherished with your husband. He will be always with you in your heart, and I believe they are looking down on us everyday and protecting us. I find comfort in believing my husband is with me. Celebrate his life by talking to him when you get those lonely moments, you may be surprised on how much better you feel.
Everyone on this site is hurting, some have more devastating stories than others, much like yours. However, what we all share is the same pain and hurt from losing the love of our life. And this site will help you vent your feelings, knowing that everyone here does care and understands.
Hugs to you Teri,