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Permalink Reply by BoLynn on August 7, 2010 at 11:20am

I wish you knew that I think you are one of the sweetest men I know and LouAnn was blessed to have your love. Some of you wishes did come true. Your post comforted me and made me feel better. I do feel your hugs all the way across the blue Pacific Ocean. I send one back. Hugs are good........BoLynn.

Permalink Reply by Mary on August 7, 2010 at 11:34am

Now you've gone and made me cry, Randolph. I have been sitting here all alone, on the 6 month anniversary of my husband's death, with our 25th wedding anniversary in 3 days. I feel like I'm on an isolated island. I was just washing windows on slider doors, and I knocked the screen off of the track on the kitchen one. Now, I have to wait a week, or two before someone shows up who can help me fix it.
Everything you have wished for, I wish for. How many times I have wished I could meet, my friends, from this site face to face. Because no one else, except some one who has been through what we have been through understands the heartache and loneliness we face each and every day. I see no purpose for being here anymore, we all died when we lost our spouses, I see no happiness ahead, but I wish for all of us to be ok. Hugs to you all. But how nice it would it be to actually wrap our arms around each other with a real heart felt hug.

Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on August 7, 2010 at 1:10pm

Thank you BoLynn and Mary D., yes it would be nice to wrap our arms around each other and give and get comfort. Hugs to all. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by Virginia on August 7, 2010 at 1:51pm

Randolph, you are the sweetest man, and I also wish the same wishes and it would be wonderfull if we could figure out a central place we could meet that would be wonderfull I surely would be there, god bless and a BIG HUG to you, your friend Virginia, P. S, I realy do enjoy talking with you,you make me laugh and I alway feel good when we hang up

Permalink Reply by Kim Hawkins on August 7, 2010 at 3:51pm

Hi Yes if we could wish and they would come true would be so great . I miss Barry so much I wish he would come back to us but only of he was healthly because that would be the only way he would want it. I am glad we have this site to because we all understand what we are going though. Some people try to feel what we are and some people just say I cant imagation what you are going though. I wish our hearts could be mended from this heart break we are feeling.

Permalink Reply by CINDY POWELL on August 7, 2010 at 6:37pm

i would give anything if i could meet each and everyone of you, face to face for a cup of coffee. i would love to be of more help to each and everyone of you besides just being able to post something on a website.unfortunately we are all scattered all over the place.but i do hope that time will heal us all and perhaps we will one day start to feel a little better.i agree with what everyone else has posted, you do sound like a very sweet man randolph.

Permalink Reply by judy on August 7, 2010 at 7:06pm

I wish these things also,Randolph, there is the possibility that at some future time we may all be able to meet over a cup of coffee. Anything is possible as we all know and if bad things are possible like the death of our beloved mates than good things are also possible. Right now it is hard to find anything that seems good. But wishing to help others and wanting happiness for others is a step toward healing. It's just so slow and seems so impossible that these people we were so joined at the hip with us and are now not here. None of us believe we can be happy again and it certainly won't be the same happy but who knows? Remember, "we could have missed the pain but we would also have to miss the dance." Saw that on another site not long ago and it made me think.

Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on August 7, 2010 at 7:30pm

Thanks to everyone for commenting. It was something I needed to say.It is still nice to share on this site. As we all know, we are joined at the hip with the loss of our spouse. I can give you all hugs. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by Connie H. on August 7, 2010 at 9:20pm

Yes, you are a very kind, compassionate man, Randy. That you or any of us are having to suffer all this is so hurtful. I have been ill all week and I know that makes things even more emotional,(if that is possible!) But I feel dead, also. Oh, I get up each day and flunder through it somehow, but most of the time I could just sit and cry. Am at a very low point at the moment, so please forgive me, everyone. Hugs, Connie

Randolph L. Schrader said:

Thanks to everyone for commenting. It was something I needed to say.It is still nice to share on this site. As we all know, we are joined at the hip with the loss of our spouse. I can give you all hugs. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by bc on August 8, 2010 at 7:53am

Randolph, you don't know what a help you have been to all of us, especially with your saying about Hugs! That something will always remember. I wish for all the things you do also, we are in this "so called life" together, and who knows, someday we may all meet and give real hugs. I am so thankful I have found you and all the rest of my friends on Legacy. All of you are my lifeline!
Big Hugs to you, hugs are really good!
Barb

Connie H. said:

Yes, you are a very kind, compassionate man, Randy. That you or any of us are having to suffer all this is so hurtful. I have been ill all week and I know that makes things even more emotional,(if that is possible!) But I feel dead, also. Oh, I get up each day and flunder through it somehow, but most of the time I could just sit and cry. Am at a very low point at the moment, so please forgive me, everyone. Hugs, Connie

Randolph L. Schrader said:

Thanks to everyone for commenting. It was something I needed to say.It is still nice to share on this site. As we all know, we are joined at the hip with the loss of our spouse. I can give you all hugs. Hugs are good.

Permalink Reply by bc on August 12, 2010 at 6:23am

Randolph, what a wonderful "wish list"! This, I've found is part of the healing process, wanting to help others, that's why we are here in this world! I've found since joining this site just by talking with all of you wonderful friends that this is my purpose now, helping others in this "new life" of ours. And when I do help someone, it gives me a more positive peaceful feeling. Sharing our memories brings our loved ones closer to us, that is what they want for us. I also wish I could meet each and every one of you, what a day of Hugs that would be!
Keep it up, you are on your way to a more positive, peaceful life. I'm here for you!
Hugs to you!
Barb

Permalink Reply by bc on August 12, 2010 at 6:26am

Judy, I love your "saying": we could have missed the pain, but we also would have missed the dance. It is so true, we had our good lives with our loved ones, now our job is to help others in this "so called life" and we will be together with our loved ones again and always. We just have to work to get there. Stay strong, we will all survive together!

judy said:

I wish these things also,Randolph, there is the possibility that at some future time we may all be able to meet over a cup of coffee. Anything is possible as we all know and if bad things are possible like the death of our beloved mates than good things are also possible. Right now it is hard to find anything that seems good. But wishing to help others and wanting happiness for others is a step toward healing. It's just so slow and seems so impossible that these people we were so joined at the hip with us and are now not here. None of us believe we can be happy again and it certainly won't be the same happy but who knows? Remember, "we could have missed the pain but we would also have to miss the dance." Saw that on another site not long ago and it made me think.

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