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Permalink Reply by Charlene Ozawa on November 15, 2010 at 12:01pm

Hi Jill. Sorry for your loss. My husband died almost 5 months ago. 6/19. I know what you mean about missing the other half of me. Michael and I were so close. Friends and lovers. I have four children, 2 girls, 2 boys. 21-38 years of age. I lost both my parents last year 2 weeks apart. It's been a hard year and half for us. Wecome to the site. It is the best. I have only been on it about two weeks and it helps so much to know that you are not alone and pretty much every thought and feeling you have had someone if not all of us has felt. This the place to vent, cry, ask questions etc. Sometimes I just read the post. Sometimes I cry along with the people writing. Sorry you had to be here but you a lot of support. Hugs..

Permalink Reply by Ellen Brant on November 15, 2010 at 2:02pm

At 1:59pm on November 15, 2010, Ellen Brant said… Jill, My heart bleeds with sadness on the loss of your husband Jason. Sadly I lost the other half of me, my husband Doug the very next DARN day, 9-29-2010. He was only 55 years old and it was unexpected as well. I don't have family left, Doug was my family. My heart weeps constantly however I must say that this site has some of the most awesome folks sadly in our shoes that have joined together and seem to share such experience, strength and hope of how to move forward one step at a time. A safe place to grieve, vent, cry, and share. Together with Jason by you forever I know you too can make it. HUGS. HUGS help us grow spiritually.Delete Comment

Permalink Reply by sharon cox on November 15, 2010 at 2:37pm

Jill, I am so sorry for your loss. I too have children, 3 girls. One is almost 15 and the other two are 12 (twins). I lost my husband 2-21-2010 in a car accident. I know what you mean about everyone thinking and saying how strong you are, they are not there to see what it's like for you at home every day and night. I am glad that I found this site, I just wish I'd found it sooner. We are all here for you, I know how much you all miss him.

Permalink Reply by Jerry on November 15, 2010 at 2:57pm

It is not a good feeling when I meet meet people that I havent seen since my wifes funeral and the first thing they ask is how are you getting along. Not much I can say but OK. In reality on the outside I guess I appear to be OK, but inside I am hurting. I just dont think it would do anything to try and explain what I am feeling. You will find many kind words here from people that are going through the same things. I can imagine during the coming holiday season,more of us will be coming on to look for and give some help.

Permalink Reply by Pearl DeLaPena on November 15, 2010 at 4:02pm

hi jill, I am truely sorry for your sudden loss and my broken heart felt the sorrow that u feel because my husband also left me to be with our Lord and savior its only been 24 days for me and it feels like I may never recover but we somehow manage to get through one more day. Be strong for your kids but don't hide how u feel from them because they truely want to be there for you. I am slowly finding out that out of everyone who says if you need anything just let me know that maybe two or three of all of those who say that truely want to help so cling to that and don't let go. My brother and sister in law have been a rock for me he calls me everyday and asks if i need money or groceries or just brings them to me I don't even have to ask. Again I am truely sorry for your loss even me I my head somehow know that I will be okay but just not right now its to fresh.
God Bless You and your family

Permalink Reply by Christy on November 15, 2010 at 4:22pm

My heartfelt prayers for you & your family. I'm glad you joined this grp., it has been a real source of comfort for me and I believe it will help you as well. My husband was 38 yrs. old and lost his life on 8/27/10 in an accident at work. Our world fell apart that day. I know how you feel-all of us here can relate to some extent. As for being strong- forget it and just hold the hand of the one who is- Jesus is here for us! That's advice from an 75 yr. old woman who has survived her husband and 3 of her 6 children and her grandson she raised- my husband. HUGS

Permalink Reply by Christy on November 15, 2010 at 4:22pm

My heartfelt prayers for you & your family. I'm glad you joined this grp., it has been a real source of comfort for me and I believe it will help you as well. My husband was 38 yrs. old and lost his life on 8/27/10 in an accident at work. Our world fell apart that day. I know how you feel-all of us here can relate to some extent. As for being strong- forget it and just hold the hand of the one who is- Jesus is here for us! That's advice from an 75 yr. old woman who has survived her husband and 3 of her 6 children and her grandson she raised- my husband. HUGS

Permalink Reply by Barbara Roth on November 15, 2010 at 4:40pm

Hi Jill, I am glad you found this site. I lost my husband on Oct. 21, 2010. I found this group almost right away, and they have become my lifeline. I am sorry for your loss, but you will find real nice friends here that understand what you are going through.Jim and I were married 38 yrs. I feel the same --Jim and I were joined at the hip. I'm so tired of hearing that I'm strong, that I'll get through this. I don't feel very strong, but this group sure helps.

Permalink Reply by CINDY POWELL on November 15, 2010 at 8:13pm

JILL, I AM SO VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. I LOST MY HUSBAND AND BEST FRIEND FEB 26TH 2010.I HAVE GROWN CHILDREN AND THIS WASNT THEIR FATHER. EVEN THOUGH THEY DID GROW TO LOVE HIM OVER THE YEARS.HE WAS DIAGNOISED WITH STAGE 4 CANCER THAT HAD METASTISED TO THE BRAIN NOV. O9 AND EVEN WITH RADIATION TREATMENTS WAS GONE WITHIN THREE MONTHS. I HAVE SO MANY PEOPLE TELLING ME THAT I SEEM TO BE GETTING BETTER, BUT I KNOW THAT I AM NOT. I THINK PEOPLE WANT TO THINK I AM GETTING BETTER BECAUSE THEY DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO SAY. I KNOW IT MUST BE SO HARD WITH CHILDREN, BUT AT LEAST IT GIVES YOU SOMETHING TO LIVE FOR. WITH MY HUSBAND GONE I AM FINDING IT DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND WHAT PURPOSE I HAVE.I HOPE THIS SITE WILL HELP YOU TO REALIZE YOU ARENT ALONE. MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU.