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Permalink Reply by Charley Solyom on May 1, 2013 at 10:46am

My heart and prayers go out to you. Feel free to let it out anywhere, anytime...God loves you, so trust Him. He's the only one who can really give you comfort right now.  I've just lost my dear wife, and I know what this feels like. There are many here who are going through or have gone through what you are going through, so this is a great place to be.   

Permalink Reply by sandra lee pirozzi on May 1, 2013 at 5:27pm

i am so sorry for your loss i lost my husband june 7 2012 we were married thirty years. i can't things are going to get better but you will adjust to all the new changes. it's hard but please get the help you need to survive.i lost my job of nineteen and a half two and a half months after my husband passed away. i became very depressed so please get what ever help to adjust things will never be the same.so sorry again god bless. sincerely sandra lee pirozzi

Permalink Reply by Mark Oborn on May 2, 2013 at 12:05pm

Angela, just know and take comfort from the fact that others are thinking of you and know your pain. My wife of 22 years (she was 43) died suddenly without warning 2 weeks ago, we have her funeral tomorrow and I too feel lost.

What I do know for sure is that we can't change what happened, we can only change how we react to what happened, and in that sense we are in control.

I lost my absolute soul mate 2 weeks ago, we were boyfriend/girl friend from 16 years old and never had any other partners. I cherish those very precious years with all my heart and know that life is different now - my focus is entirely on remembering with fondness and being so, so , so  grateful that I shared the years I did with Claire, even though we planned to grow old together and I know that will never happen.

Take comfort knowing you are not alone and we share your loss.

Permalink Reply by Angela Giallombardo on May 2, 2013 at 1:27pm

Mark, Thank you for replying to my post. I feel so alone. He was my rock and was never sick a day in his life. I just can't believe that I will never see him or talk to him again. He was retired and we spent 24/7 together. He was 64. He died right in front of my eyes and I just can't get that picture out of my head.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your wife. 43 is too young to die. Thank you again.
 

Permalink Reply by Janice F. on May 2, 2013 at 5:28pm

Angela, my thoughts are with you, and I mean that from the bottom of my broken heart, to your broken heart.  This raw grief is so new for you, you can't see how you will go on, but you will.  It is the hardest and worst thing that will ever happen to you.  Its too soon to tell you it will get somewhat easier, but it will.  I lost my beloved soulmate, Don, June 26, 2012, 10 months now.  There are days when I absolutely cannot believe he's gone..But I live my life the best I can, as I know he would want.  I also have my 94 yr old father, across the street, he's a very difficult man, but we, his family are doing our best with him.   I hope your mother will be OK.  I lost my beautiful Mom in July of 2011.  Devastated me.  But when Don didn't wake up that morning in June,  it was incomprehensible, it still is.  I hope that you can find some comfort and peace in your heart...one step at a time.  Everyone here knows your pain.

Permalink Reply by Angela Giallombardo on May 2, 2013 at 6:14pm

Jan,

Thank you so much for your comforting words. I just can't believe that this happened. I understand that my pain is very raw. I have my daughter and son in law downstairs from me and they are a big help.  My mother is still in the hospital and I can't go visit her because when my husband and I went to visit her on Monday, he started feeling sick in the lobby of the hospital. We drove home and he started feeling a bit better and 15 min. later it happened. I just can't get that picture out of my mind. I don't think that I ever will. I'm walking around in a fog. I keep thinking that he's going to walk through the door. My daughter is devastated and he was her step-father but she's been with him since she is 6 years old. I just hope that we can all get through this. Thank you.  

Permalink Reply by Marsha H on May 3, 2013 at 9:18pm

Angela ...  My sincere condolences regarding the loss of your husband.  I am so very sad you have to come onto this forum, but it's a wonderful place where you can just say what you want and how you feel without being judged and the members on here are angels and when of us falls down there are the others to pick us up. 

There are no words I can say to take this pain from you and I wish with all my heart I had a magic wand to take away the grief from all of us.  Your grief is so raw right now so try to surround yourself with family or one or two loyal friends so you can just say what is in your heart and try to rest the best you can as sleep is so important.  I realize that your mother is another heavy weight on your shoulders on top of your grief, but believe it or not we soon find out we are stronger than we think. 

Please keep coming back here and we will help you all we can go through the steps of grief and hold you up. 

Big hugs (because you need it)

Marsha