On April 21st, about three weeks ago, I lost my lover, best friend, and companion of 25 years. She had cancer and had started chemo which was supposed to give her a few more years, but into the second week of treatment the dose was increased and she died three days later from the medication. It made her weaker and weaker until I finally decided to call 911, but it was too late and she died holding my hand, shortly after the paramedics arrived. I had no idea the medication would kill her, after all, it was supposed to help her live longer. Since then I have been devastated, we were always together and shared everything. It's as though my reason for living has been taken from me. I've never experienced such pain and sorrow. I'll see or hear something that reminds me of our life together and then find myself sobbing and in tears - as I am now. I miss her so very much. What am I to do without her?
Thank you all for your sinsere and caring responses. It really does help to know that there are others who understand the depth and severity of the grief associated with losing a life mate. Never before have I experienced, nor could I ever have imagined a pain more agonizing and emotionally devestating as this. But I know now that I will persevere and continue on because I have all of you to help me through.
Hi Chris ... How are you doing? We are here for you and you are part of our extended family; we know exactly how you feel. There are no wise words to tell you, but I do honestly know how you feel. Shortly after Ernie passed away I basically slept a lot to escape the heart-rendering pain of losing him and little by little I began to get my strength back and try to go with the grief. Whatever problems you have please let us know because all of us can relate to you and hopefully give you some comfort. YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS JOURNEY OF GRIEF!
You may want to go to grief counseling either 'group' or 'one-on-one' to help you. It helps some people and I did go myself, but to be honest found the angels on this forum more understanding and knew exactly what I was going through. Do please, just keep posting and keep in contact with us or, if you are having a particularly bad day read some of the posts because they do help.
Life goes on around you. Yet you seem to stand still. Most people in my life say you're doing great. It's all a facade. I don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable around me and not fit in. Yes, it has been eight months since I lost my husband, my Jack, but there is a hole in my heart that will never heal. Yes, there is a soul mate, a life partner that completes you. I was blessed to have Jack in my life for twenty years and I celebrate that time that we had.