It has been one of those days. I am heart broken. Ok about a month ago my Father -in -law my husband Barrys stepdad had a growth and they needed to do test. Send him to duke. They told him they thought he had cancer but thought it ws a kind that could be treated easily. The growth was not attached to any organs. I thought this is good he will be ok. They did more test last week and today the doctors are saying it is in his panacris( not spelled right sorry,) and he is just a matter of time. He told my sister in law he does not know if he will make it to Christmas. How can this be happening. How am I going to tell my kids who are 16 and 7. That know after losing their Dad they are now going to lose there grandfather. Barrys dad passed away when he was 15 and his mom remarried a few years befor we married. So he is the only grandfather on Barrys side that my kids have ever known. This will be hard enough on the Adults after losing my husband but why does my kids have to go though this pain again only 2 1/2 years later. The other thing is that in July my younger sister who is only 47 found out that she has cancer also. She is going though chemo now. The doctor says she should to well. I sure pray so. I need Barry here more that ever. How am I going to get though this without him? I have been crying today and my heart is aching so bad. This will be the second time that my mother-in-law will be a widow and she lost her son. I need lots of prayers for my family right now. Thanks for listening.

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Dear Kim,
I am so sorry for all you are going through. I have been going through stress as well but nothing like what's happening in your family. I know this must be really so difficult. I pray that the right words come to you and you know what to say. A week before Christmas last year I really struggled with if I should let Danny's family and my family know about the final prognosis we got for him on Dec. 18th or should I wait until after Christmas. They all told me later that it was better that I told them all when I did. I thought I didn't know how long he had, but who knows if he would have a healing, so maybe their holiday would be spoiled, but with teenagers it might be a good idea to talk or ask opinions from a professional or from trusted friends and family. You are all going through this horrible time together. My heart is breaking for you and I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers always. I don't know what else I can say, but I hope you continue to come here or wherever you need to ask for help. Take care of yourself.
God bless,
Lots of prayers going your way Kim. I know so much how you feel cus my family is facing similar issues. My husband just passed in February and now my baby brother who is 50 was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer too. He had surgery yestrday and they took as much as they could but I do understand this is a very agressive cancer so hopefully they can help your father-in-law by at least prolonging the situation. It will be hard to tell your children but it is important for them to know and hopefully make forever memories in the time left with their grandpa, especially with the holidays upon us. Take care of yourself. We continue to send hugs and prayers..
Kim, You have my prayers. My father in law died from cancer when my husband was 19 years old. Cancer was always my husbands biggest fear and how ironic he died from it too. My son told me he hopes to be the first to see his grandchildren. I wish I knew what was going on. Unfortunately I think our children are getting a tough skin and can probably take more than we can. Try to make Christmas special with their grandfather and if they ask just tell them that grandpa is going to look after their dad. If you have a good relationship with your father in law tell him how important it is to say some kind of goodbye. Frank would never accept his dying and I hurt more now for that. We can only have peace when they Keep your sisters spirits up and that will help. You need a break here and I hope your sister getting well is the one you have long deserved. Please tell me if I can do anything for you. Renee
Kim, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Take care of yourself and the children.
Thanks everyone for your prayers. I am waiting on some more news but it is not looking good at this point. I will wait to get all the information before I tell the kids. I am aso praying that my father in law will let people come to see him. I think we need this .
You and your family will be in my prayers. Hugs, Ed
kim i am so sorry for you that you are going thru a really tough situtation. i pray for you and your family hugs to all
Kim, I am so sorry for all you and your family are going throught. i will keep you all in my prayers.
You have all the prayers and best wishes and hopeful thoughts that I can muster. I will be thinking of you and your family.
Well today has not been a good day. I have missed Barry so much today. I went to my parents but felt alone in a house full of people. Went to the cemetery and cried. My kids decided to sleep out tonight. My 7 year old at my parents and my 16 year old at a friends. So I was sitting here when the phone rang it was my Mother in Law. She said my Father in Law wanted to talk to me. He got on the phone and said to me he wanted to tell the kids and me bye. That he loved us and didnt think it would be long now. My heart is broken . I need Barry herre so bad right now. He was always my rock when it came to things like this. I am crying so hard I think I need to go lay down. Please keep us in your prayers.
So sorry this situation with your FIL is moving so quickly. Our thoughts and prayers are definitey with you and your family.I do hope you have had a chance to talk to your children about this, especially if grandpa is now saying goodbye to his family. He seems to feel the end is nearing so be glad he is taking the time to speak to everyone. Take care of yourself...
Kim, I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Take care.


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