I am new to this site as I'm only just recently widowed. My husband passed away on the 12th August after only 5 months on from being diagnosed with terminal pancreatic and liver cancer. I nursed him through it at home which was horrible for me and my children to see, especially my 11 year old. My husband refused to talk about finances or our company business. He just didn't want to deal with losing our livelyhood. He and I were just consumed by the cancer. I now have been left to sort everything and its so overwhelming...clearing out his lockup, which is packed and I can't find another decorator to buy the stock. I've been told that I'm liable for all his debts and I have no savings as we used them to buy a miracle cure off the internet. I've just been told the carers allowance which I was receiving for 8 wks after he passed to help get by, is now going to be taken out of any other benefit. So now I have to pay the morgage on just £75. Just that after paying tax, NI all our lives.
So reason why I am angry is that .....................my husbands' refusal to deal with things as left me in debt, probably homeless. Why did he do that? He could of made himself bankrupt sold things when he was least sick. Got help from people he new, even told me where is scaffold is stored. But no????????? The tears are rolling I can't grieve as I have too much to sort out. I can't do Christmas, don't want to do trees, cards and stuff. I want to go far away with my daughter so we can escape it all. How can I do that with no money. I can't even pay for a Headstone. Yeah.... £3500 for the funeral, whats all that about? Far too much! They just take advantage of us.
Cancer has taken my father at the age of 41 and now my husband at the age of 52 after only 25 years of marriage. I am only 44.....too much, too young. I hate all of this. Why ? I'm a nice person done nobody any harm. Why oh why? Feel like I'm being punished! Wished he had helped me.