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Permalink Reply by Faith J. on November 9, 2012 at 10:53pm

Kim, thank you for your encouraging words. It will be 6 mth's that my Paul has been gone on 11/25. Not sure how I'll get through the holidays, but you offer me hope. I to got rid of our hse & moved from IL to Vegas. Thanks again. God bless.

Permalink Reply by Lori P. on November 10, 2012 at 1:04am

Hello Kim,

I give you such courage to move on and away. I am also feeling the need to move away from the town that my Husband Michael and I lived in. I feel that I can't go on in this town where we spent so much time together, It is like I feel the need to change my surroundings and friends and make new friends and new surroundings with the new me. I have learned through this process of grieving, that I have to become a NEW ME, I am no longer Michaels wife, Michaels friend, Michaels business partner.  I am just Lori and I am again a person alone. Your writing has brought me to my knees. I don't want to start over but it is what I must do...I am only in the 7th month of my loss of my love Michael , I feel his presence all around me  and that gives me such comfort to keep going on. I know that I must make this move and it just gives me such courage to hear that you did it and it seems to of been a good thing. Thank you for your post it gives me the courage to do what I know in my heart that I need to do this

. God Bless you in your journey and we all must remember during this road we are on that one day we will be face to face with our loved one and again will hold each other like we always did before they left us.I so look forward to that day, but until then I/We must go on with our life here on Earth.

Permalink Reply by Kim on November 10, 2012 at 8:11am

Lori & Faith,

It was just too hard for me to stay in the same house and town and keep the same friends because everywhere I went was a memory of my husband. Not that I want to forget him because I never will. We were married 18 years, but as Lori said I am no longer Jerry's wife. Those are hard words for me to swallow but it is the truth. I am a new me and need new surroundings and new friends to help keep me moving forward. 2 years ago I would have never even thought that possible to move forward, (I was in such a dark place) but I have and that makes me a stronger person than I ever thought I was. One thing that really helped me was to stop sitting in the house and to get out and do things whether I wanted to or not. I am thankful my family and friends were patient with me and helped to push me into doing more. When Jerry was alive we never sat home. We were always out doing something. The more I got out the more I started enjoying life again and that gave me the strength to move from NY to FL. Prayers are with you both.

Permalink Reply by didi on November 11, 2012 at 6:53am

Kim, so nice to read your letter. I too lost my husband in 2010, I am 52, but only found this site recently.

I wish I could get up and move I feel this would help me, but in some ways I have gone in the opposite direction, to continue with his work. I think it is tearing me up, but I feel I don't have a choice. Nice to read you are now more able to deal with everything, gives me hope. Thank-you for your post.

Didi

Permalink Reply by littlechatykathy@hotmail.com on November 23, 2012 at 9:05am

I am glad that in your own way you were able to begin to move on.  Like you I lost my husband but it was four year ago.  I let my house go and moved to another state after my mom death 3 months ago I moved with my 85 year old father.  It like i fainally made peace with his death.  Like you I always remmber him.   thanks fr sharing kathyjo