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The day after ----Thank you
Hello everyone,
I want to thank all of you for your messages and comments.
After a week of heavy rains, I awoke yesterday to a beautiful.day. As most of you knew My husbands cremains burial was scheduled at 10:00 at Fort Indiantown Gap Military Cemetary.
I felt that he sat on my mantel long enough.
I went into this with a peace that it was time. I know that I will be with him there at some point.
Even though I plan on relocating out of Pa. at some point I felt it was the right thing to do.
My stepdaughters, who live in other states could not attend. The youngest is undergoing chemo for metastised breast cancer. It feels like we just go from one thing to another. Please say a prayer for her. She is only 43 with two young boys.
My funeral director, who is a fellow therapy dog handler strongly recommended that Beau my therapy rescue dog be there also. I thaught he was crazy, but I was surprised to see other dogs there with their owners.
Anyway, he made it a little easier for me.
I truly feel at peace now and know the Bob is watcing over me in my future endeavors.
Thank you all
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Permalink Reply by CINDY POWELL on
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gail, i am so glad you had a beautiful day. that was your husband smiling down on you. that is how i felt the day i buried my husbands ashes on july 28th 2010. we went to the cemetary at about 10:30 am and it was a little cloudy.i just prayed it wouldnt rain because it had rained all week long. the pastor was running almost an hour late. once he arrived we said a few prayers and probably were their another 30 minutes. anyhow we were able to make it through without rain. however a couple of hours later we had a downpour. so i like to think that my husband had the whole situation under control.i am glad to hear that you brought beau with you. i bet bob would have liked that. i will say a prayer for your step daughter.
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Permalink Reply by bc on
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Gail, I'm glad the day was sunshine for you. It was a hard thing to do I imagine, as my husband was buried without cremation. Sometimes I think I should have had him creamated so I could have kept him with me longer, but we never talked about it and it didn't even cross my mind. I go to the cemetery every day to visit with him though. Your husband sent the sunshine to you as a sign that its okay
Sorry to hear about your daughter. All of you are in my thoughts and prayers. That was a good idea to bring your dog with you, they are comforting. I am so happy that you feel at peace now and I pray that you continue on with your positive days! -
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Permalink Reply by Pamela J Gaines on
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I want to say how sorry I am. I went to seek council with a local paster. I was falling apart and I said to him I did not want my husband to see me like that. He told me that my late husband Bob could not see me. This really broke my heart. I want him to see I can survive I can get up I can take care of things. What do you think? I feel him watching over me
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Pamela, I totaly agree with you. Bob is watching over me.
There is one thing about this site that could be a good discussion.
I had been divorced for ten years when I married my husband. I took care of everything myself. I was a Dental Hygienist, so income was good. My husband did not tend to the finances and left mostly everything to me.
I am getting vibes from many of the people here that they may have been totally dependant on their spouses.
I have met widows who did not know how to write a check, insurance information, and are totaly lost. I wish there was a place to help them thru this whole process.
I have a peace that has come over me now, as I move forward. He may be watching over me, but not helping me. This we must all do on our own.
Thank you for your comment.
Gail
Pamela J Gaines said:I want to say how sorry I am. I went to seek council with a local paster. I was falling apart and I said to him I did not want my husband to see me like that. He told me that my late husband Bob could not see me. This really broke my heart. I want him to see I can survive I can get up I can take care of things. What do you think? I feel him watching over me -
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Cindy, Thank you for your kind thaughts.
I don't know about you, but I feel totally at peace right now.
I have to share a funny thaught with you. When we sold our house and moved into our apartment, everyone joked that Bob was the neighborhood watchmen. We and Beau would sit at the window everyday and watch everyday. He knew every car, every person walking, as well as every dog in the complex.
He retired at 65 and I continued working to pay the bills, so every evening when I came home I would have to sit thru at least a hour of neighborhood news before starting dinner.
I don't think I have cooked a decent dinner since he passed.
Hope you have a good day.
Gail
CINDY POWELL said:gail, i am so glad you had a beautiful day. that was your husband smiling down on you. that is how i felt the day i buried my husbands ashes on july 28th 2010. we went to the cemetary at about 10:30 am and it was a little cloudy.i just prayed it wouldnt rain because it had rained all week long. the pastor was running almost an hour late. once he arrived we said a few prayers and probably were their another 30 minutes. anyhow we were able to make it through without rain. however a couple of hours later we had a downpour. so i like to think that my husband had the whole situation under control.i am glad to hear that you brought beau with you. i bet bob would have liked that. i will say a prayer for your step daughter. -
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