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The love of a good man!
I just posted a status on facebook---about best friends who could look across the room and know exactly what the other one was going to say. And as I read it, I knew it was also about my best friend and husband. We many times knew what the other was thinking and could read each others minds. And then I got to thinking about my JIm. Just how lucky I was to find him. Many of you don't know how we met. JIm had put an ad in our local paper looking for someone not afraid of commitment. I answered that ad. We were married 3 months later and were married 24 years before he died.
Now, he would tell anyone who would listen, that he was the lucky one. I quess it was a mutual admiration. The only regret I have, is we didn't have more time together. But, I never for one moment, doubted just how much he loved me and I loved him. Too, many people in this world never find that kind of love. And if they do find someone, it doesn't last. Someone cheats, or they "just couldn't get along'. I'd say I was blessed, and lucky to find a good, loving, christian man, who ment the world to me and would have given me the world if he could. He has been gone 6 1/2 months, that's not a long time, yet it seems like it has been forever at times. I miss him every minute of every day. But I have no regrets, except the wanting more time. Because, I realize how lucky I have been to have had THE LOVE OF A GOOD MAN.
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Permalink Reply by kathleen caylor on
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Amen!I know what you mean.Someone who knew what you were thinking and could finish your sentences.I remember watching tv one night and I said to Ernie "that looks like"And he said I Was thinking the same thing!!Without saying a name we knew what the other was thinking!I miss those things but I'm grateful to have had that connection.So many people have never shared that!I guess it's all about gratitude and not self pity!!We were lucky!!!I miss my husband.After 44 years of marriage,trials and tribulations,we were quite comfortable.I know i'll never find that again.I miss that man.I watched him grow from that 19 yr.old boy into the loving caring man he became.
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Permalink Reply by judy on
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Know exactly what you both mean. I watched Tim grow from the age of 11. He grew into a loving husband, a co mpassionate father, a fun grandfather and a deeply spiritual person with a lot of faith. We enjoyed just being in the room together, both of us reading a book. I was deeply blessed to have him with me for 47 years and I never doubted for one moment that he loved me dearly. I regret that I have had to loose the gift he was to my life, but I do feel it is a temporary loss and we will be together once again.
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Permalink Reply by kathy obiedzinski on
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mary: you are so right in your discussion. i found a good man and now he is gone since 3/1/09 he was my everything i know everyone on this site feels the same way the saying goes you don't know what you got until it is gone if anyone has someone good hang on to them because they can be gone before you know it mary i like your discussions good job
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Permalink Reply by Randolph L. Schrader on
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Mary, I also liked your post. Of all the things we had with our spouse, the looking across the room and seeing that they knew what you were thinking and going to say sure reminded me of what I had. My pal is gone. The love of a good man is gone now, me. No one to share with and to know the love that I have in all respects and to appreciate it. That is all put out to pasture never to be used again. But.."thank you God, for giving us that time together". Hugs to all. Hugs are good.
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randolph: its seems the people on this site had someone good in their lives even if was for a short time
i had george for what would have been 35 years last july he passed 4mos before our anniversity.
again some of us had our soulmates longer then others but we all found the love of our lives. i for one know that i would never remarry i told george this all the time i told him if any thing happen to him i will not remarry and i do not think i would you take care of yourself ok? hugs hugs are good
Randolph L. Schrader said:Mary, I also liked your post. Of all the things we had with our spouse, the looking across the room and seeing that they knew what you were thinking and going to say sure reminded me of what I had. My pal is gone. The love of a good man is gone now, me. No one to share with and to know the love that I have in all respects and to appreciate it. That is all put out to pasture never to be used again. But.."thank you God, for giving us that time together". Hugs to all. Hugs are good. -
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Permalink Reply by bc on
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Mary, I know exactly what you mean. Brad and I would be having a talk about something and one of us would say something and the other one would say, "I was just going to say that" and we would laugh that we thought exactlythe same. I feel very lucky that I had the time together with Brad, people tell me all the time that not many people have that kind of perfect love, and I agree. That's what I miss, the times we talked (which was all of the time), we would be in the car on a trip and it was non-stop talking. I found my one true love, best friend and soul mate and our time together was way too short. I can't share things with him any more and we can't make our Dreams come true any longer. I have to do that by myself now and hope that he is proud of everything I do. I talk to him always and ask his help in everything I have to decide, I miss him so much, and I miss that smile and twinkle in his eyes when he was going to surprise me with something, which he did so many times.
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Permalink Reply by Marlena on
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Mary,
I love the story of how you met. I never thought "ad romances" lasted...you are proof that they can! You were so lucky to have found your GOOD MAN.
The best relationships are the ones where you can read each other's minds and finish each other's sentences. It is sad that so many people don't work at what they have. When I see couples now, I'm jealous of the couples my age and older (especially older because I wanted to be them), but the younger ones I want to run up to and scream at them to hang on tight to what they have and cherish every moment because you never know when it will be gone.
I miss Tom with every fiber of my being. We have been together since we were 17 and married at 19 (we were 2 months and 9 short of our 25th anniversary). Although it ended all too soon we can say we were the lucky ones...we were blessed with the love of a Good Man -
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Permalink Reply by Nancy Satterthwaite on
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Mary,
You write so Beautifully. Thank you for sharing.... -
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Permalink Reply by CINDY POWELL on
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dear mary, i had a very good man, and yes i am blessed and i need to remember that. i just dont understand why i only got to be with him 12 years. i wanted to grow old with him. he was the only person that i have ever felt loved me unconditionally. he loved me when i couldnt even love myself. he was their for me when my own family wasnt. i cant say enough good things about this man who i am proud to say was my husband. i miss him with every beat of my heart and i know that he could never be replaced.i know that is why i am having such a hard time.i love your story about answering an ad in the paper.
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