It has been three and a half months since Bob passed. He was creamated but not buried. He has been on my mantel ever since. My thinking was that I wanted to be buried with him when the time came,
I have found it very hard. I have chosen to have his cremains buried on our anniversary the 26th. It would have been 21 years.
His two daughters who live out of state cannot attend, but I have their blessing. It will be at Indiantown gap military cemetary, which is beautiful, and I can join him also.
So it will be the undertaker and me. Please keep me in your thaughts and prayers as I think I will need them.
Hugs to all and I hope you all have a good week.
I have the same issue. My husbands c remains are sitting by the bed. I can't let go of them. The closure was there since I saw him die why do I need to throw out the ashes since they are all I have physically left of him. Maybe one day like you I will bury/scatter them. Everyone in the family says I should. How did you come to the decision?
My husband passed away Nov 19,2009 - He was creamated after the funeral mass and most of his ashes went into a cryupt in the monsalueum at the cemetary on dec 26,2009. I wanted him to have a final resting spot before the new year. My funeral director suggested i keep some of the ashes as i have a phobia of funeral parlors and cemetarys as when my dad passed away 20 yrs ago , i slipped at the cemetary and almost fell in the hole for his casket- so i bought a small shaped heart when i made the funeral arrangements. This heart sits on my fire place mantle. This way i know he is close to me - I have not been back to the cemetary since dec 26 and have no intention - so keeping a few of his ashes was the best thing ever suggested - Gail that is my suggestion to you- keep a few of his ahes as well
My husband was also cremated. I have a locket that I wear that has a few of his ashes as well as a lock of his hair. Our children will each get some ashes, as well has his brother. We took some of his ashes and spread them at one of our favorite fishing spots. I will definitely keep most of them. Someday, when it is my time to go, I will tell the children to combine mine with his, then they can do what they want to with them. I could never bear to part with all of them... they are all I physically have left of him.