WHAT TO SAY

I NEED SOME ADVISE ON WHAT TO SAY WHEN SOMEONE THAT DID NOT KNOW THAT GEORGE PASSED LAST YEAR ON 3/1/09 COMES UP TO ME AND WE START TALKING SOME HOW WE GOT ON THE SUBJECT OF VACATION I SAID SINCE GEORGE PASSED I WILL NOT RETURN TO THE PLACE WHERE WE WENT EVERY YEAR ON VACATION WHICH WAS WILDWOOD NJ THE PERSON SAID I DID NOT KNOW I SAID DON'T WORRY YOU WERE NOT HERE YOU WERE OUT AND I LEFT IT LIKE THAT. WELL THIS PERSON WENT ON AND ON OF HOW SORRY SHE WAS TO HEAR ABOUT GEORGE. SHE WOULD HAVE SENT ME A CARD I AGAIN TOLD HER PLEASE DO NOT WORRY ABOUT IT. I WAS WISHING SHE WOULD GET THE HINT AND LEAVE THE SUBJECT ALONE BUT NO SHE ALMOST HAD ME CRYING AGAIN BUT I FOUGHT THE TEARS OFF WHAT DO YOU SAY BESIDE THANK YOU WITHOUT SOUNDING NASTY?

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Permalink Reply by Kim Hawkins on August 12, 2010 at 2:45pm

After 2 years I still see people who do not know about Barry. When they say their sorry I say Thank you it has been very hard for us. If they say anythiing else I just say it is really hard to talk about it. Hopefully then they will understand you do not or cant talk about it. I hope this helps but I know how you feel. I cant tell you how many times I have had to tell the story about what happened. Try and stay strong which I also know is hard.

Permalink Reply by Fernandohulya on August 12, 2010 at 3:01pm

Kathy, I know what you mean but I say firmly that a genuine warm felt condolences just does it and change the subject but one woman just like yours presisted so just started crying so she would stop. Sometimes I am the person who is avoiding some people, I think the table starts turning, when they think it is safe to approach you it is we who are not wanting them came to us.

with lots of hugs

Permalink Reply by CINDY POWELL on August 12, 2010 at 7:11pm

i have also experienced people approaching me, with their condolonces, and its been 5and a half mo. i just say thank you it has been really hard and i still am going through really tough times and usually they will get the hint.

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