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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Bruce I Love that Song It is Beatiful! Iam so Lonley here! & Trying to pay all the bill's on time are driving me crazy! I Dont know how my husband did it? But I also Lost so much money when passed away! & Now Iam Getting mad @ Him! But Then I feel so guility! Iam @ a Loss ? What do ya'll do, or How do we go on? What comes next? I Cant take care of me? I Still cant eat Very Much, My Kid's are all grown & My Grandkid's are almost grown! And Iam on a Fixed Income & Disabled! My own Therpist tell's me that I Look so Sad? I don't even know what that means? How am I suppose to Look! I Belive in God! & I Try To do the best I can? I Need to Find a Church? But I sometimes Think That The Lord might be mad @ Me? Or Maybe I done something so Wrong He can't forgive me! He has Taken Both of My Husband's To Be With Him in Heaven! But He left me behind, A Sad old lonely woman! And Everyone tell's me it just take time to heal! I Hate that word! Iam Just Lost, & Really dont know what to do? But This site is good for me some day's I comment! But Iam Trying to learn how to go on, & some how Not to Look so SAD! I Pray That Curt would give me a sign, That he is OK, or That I will be ok? I Just dont know, Any Help from anyone would help me a Lot! My Prayer's Go Out to everyone on this site! And I Thank You For any Feed Back & Help! Have a Blessed Day! Debbie
If you're looking at a real Mac BT keyboard the latest model uses 2 AA batteries, where the earlier one used 1. Sometimes people get them with a new computer and sell them cheap/cheaper than the stores. If you're buying from a private party learn how to pair it with your iPad before hand so you can test it out.
Shannon, you might try turning 'auto-correct' and 'auto-fill-in' off. It can make little mistakes worse than the mistake itself. Also at home you can use a bluetooth keyboard instead of the touch screen.
Shannon, I'm going to see Tyler Perry's new play "Madea Gets a Job" as well as the movie "Good Deeds." I feel so bad that my brother has been staying with me, and most of the time I just mope around. I'm really trying to put on a brave front, so I'm going to treat him to dinner and some entertainment.
As for you and your son, he is entitled to social security benefits from his dad. Sadly, I know this because I received them when my dad died when I was 11, and they also continued while I was in college. You may already know about that, but maybe this information will help some one else on this discussion. The same is true for the Veterans Administration.
Also, since I never really thought about it, I just walked into the funeral home prepared to pay. It was the very kind funeral director who told me that I was entitled to Lawrence's retirement and that teachers have a life insurance policy separate from the regular life insurance. I was so much in shock that I just looked at the man and forgot all about it. He called the insurance company and the retirement system and had them mail me the necessary forms. I found out also that Lawrence had taken out additional insurance, et cetera, annuities, et cetera, last year. I was stunned. I've heard old people say that just as women who are expecting get really busy before they go into labor, some sort of nesting, that people can sense that something is changing. I don't know if this is true, but it sure shocked me.
I feel so for you, Deborah. It may take a while for the shock of the whole thing to wear off. When it does, just make sure you have people who you can REALLY rely on around, people who truly love you. Get a list of people you can call who can come and support you. Don't become a hermit. I'm not saying to be watchful, but also let the tears flow; it's healing. I and many others on this discussion are praying for you.
You are still going to have to "go through" this, but that's the operative phrase, "You're going through." It is a miserable, painful, overwhelming feeling. But we are all here for you in our cyber fashion. It seems that just when you need a word or some comfort someone comes online and contributes something that helps you get through another day. I have learned this one thing in all of this.
I intend to live each moment as though it is my last, because it just might be. Whatever I need to say to people, whatever good I can do, whomever I can comfort, I'm going to do it because that was the essence of my sweetheart, Lawrence.
Julie, thanks for the kudos. I love your posts as well. Shannon, you're consistent. You I love how you're sharing each phase with us. Bruce and Shannon, they will know where you find you. Remember, they are no longer confined by time or space. Do you remember the old TV show "Bewitched" or "I dream of Jeannie"? All they have to do is just be there. I believe they are always with us; they are inside of our spirits.
God bless all, hugs to all!
Bruce, thank you for posting that song, I had forgotten about it but have always loved it. I copied it to my desk top. It made me cry but also gave me a little hope to find out why I am still here.
Bruce, I will definitely go and listen to it, as no, I don't know the song, but it sounds very touching. Thank you for letting me know.
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