Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Shannon on April 8, 2012 at 7:37pm
Hello everyone, well today was a good for my son and I, my mother and father had Easter since there was no way I could do it yet. I went outside by myself and looked up at the sky and asked - are you here with me and for 30 seconds a cloud formed into the letter M which I know was a sign from Mike :) I had a tear drop and said thank you and then I was ok.

A friend told me not to look at holidays as being any different from any other day we hurt just the same on a non holiday and you make it through these days you'll make it through this day she was so right.

Many blessings to everyone and I hope each one of you here were able to smile at least once today. May God Bless each and everyone on this site..
Comment by Julie Stearns on April 8, 2012 at 5:20pm

Jane, I am so sorry we have to go through these holidays alone, trust me when I say I know how bad they hurt. If not for Easter though our love ones would truly be dead and not just away,  because of what Jesus did, they will live forever and be waiting for us when our time comes.  Love julie!  Love and hugs to all.

Comment by janeo on April 8, 2012 at 12:12pm
To all, may God give us the strength and prayers to make it ease our pain today. I will think of all today and say prayers for us all. And our love ones, Extra hugs to all my support for my new friendships.
Comment by Chicago Beard on April 8, 2012 at 10:32am

To all, have a happy holiday whether you celebrate Passover or Easter! Hugs.

Comment by Carol Kayser on April 8, 2012 at 2:18am
Dear Vee, Nancy and Jane. Blessings on you and everyone for a very Happy Easter. May you feel uplifted in some way this special Sunday.

Comment by Vee on April 7, 2012 at 9:47pm

Nancy, Carol, and Jane, have a terrific Easter!  I have all of you in my prayers and thoughts, along with the other members of the group.  Well, tomorrow is the "big three-month" mark.  It is also Easter.  I am doing positive things and doing all I can to get over this Sunday mania.  I ask for your continued prayers. 


I, too, know tomorrow will be a good day.  My motto most of my life has been "The race is not given to the swift or to the strong, but to he who endures to the end."


Blessings and hugs to all.


Comment by janeo on April 7, 2012 at 12:23pm
I know tomorrow will be a ruff day, but my prayers will be for us all. Happy Easter to all
Comment by nancy on April 6, 2012 at 2:00pm

The breast cancer group was amazing. 4 of us there in all different stages. I so believe God is putting me in these places for a reason. Once again (just like here) I am in a place where I can honestly say, Wow, I thought I had it bad. I got nothing!I met a single mom of a disabled daughter that was diagnosed last month with breast cancer. They already know it's in her lymph nodes and they also found it in her hip! This she finds out with one month left 2 go for her degree in nursing!She has 2 have a dbl. mast. asap.Her Mom died last year from cancer. Another woman has had breast cancer 3 times and was unable to have breast reconstruction! Never thought when I went to this group that I would be leaving feeling omg I'm so lucky. But I do and I am blessed.

I went to the cemetery with my sil and we hung out for quite a while sitting on John. He would be so happy that he has the greenest and thickest grass in the place. I'm glad it's looking so good there because I can't guarantee that it will look like that at our house!!I'll do my best but I am not John.

I am proud to say that I have had a good and productive week. I plan to keep my plans the same for next week. Lots of exercise and sunshine, good company and laughs. I have alot to do before my next chemo. round. I'm going to stay positive.

Happy Easter! Stay strong. Hugs and peace

Comment by Carol Kayser on April 5, 2012 at 8:44pm

Dear Nancy, this is totally awesome!  So inspired by you!  I love your comments about your granddaughter - cause me too, that is exactly how I feel! My hubby is John too, but we all called him Jack and his dad Jackie.  I can still hear my father-in-law calling his son in that deep voice! 

When I am with Abigail I just feel so connected and overwhelmed with love, what a feeling!


I hope you enjoy your Breast cancer support group Nancy and meet some new friends, friends are the best!


Keep up the good work - you are having a really positive impact on us!


Happy Easter to you and yours,



Comment by nancy on April 5, 2012 at 7:48am

Hi all. I'm on a roll! I went to the "exercise your core" class yesterday. Wow...I can't believe how weak I've become so quickly. Here I keep saying I can't get wait to get back to work and There's no way I could physically do my job. So it was a rude awakening but now I have a new goal. I have to get back into shape asap so I can work again. I'm amazed that so many people keep working through chemo. I just know for me I could never pick up a bag of insulation (they're practically my size) let alone pick one up and throw it and that's what I need to do.

I had a great start and finish to my day. It ended with my stepdaughter and granddaughter. Our first born granddaughter who has her Papa's quick wit outgoing personality. I sooo adore her. Whenever I'm with her I feel John everywhere. He was so in love with know, she did no wrong!

I have plans to walk in the park with 2 friends today! Breast cancer support group tonight.(my first time) I still feel really good. That's 5 days in a row!! Oh how I hope it stays. I feel so much better physically and emotionally. It'll be 7 months on the 7th. I can't believe it. As we all know, I remember it like it was yesterday but it feels like I haven't seen him in a million years!

In case I get busy with the upcoming holiday, I'd like to wish everyone a Happy Easter/Resurrection Day!

Julie, thank you. I appreciate that. I hope you have an enjoyable time with Kyle's friends. I'll be thinking of you Good Friday.

Joyful Expectations everyone! We can do this!!!!

Peace, hugs and prayers.


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