Bereaved Spouses

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Just a reminder to all of you over these next few days. The weather reports all over are talking extreme heat. Those of you out West have even warmer temperatures than here in the Midwest or East. Please keep well hydrated by drinking plenty of water. Hopefully all of you have air in your homes. If not, please find a friend or relative that has air and see if you can go there. Otherwise, find out where the cooling centers in your neighborhood or town are and use them. Please take care not to over exert yourself and check in here.

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Comment by betsy toombs on April 13, 2012 at 8:33am


I also was just on prednisone because of my asthma. I had sinus infection and bronchitis. It went away, but when it got so warm so fast all the pollens were a month ahead of schedule. I had trouble even with my allergy meds and allergy shots. Just couldn't get rid of the congestion and stuff in my throat. Pred cleared it up.

Hope you feel better  

Comment by Julie Stearns on April 13, 2012 at 7:57am

Nancy if you are on prednisone a diuretic will probably get rid of that wt. a little lemon juice in warm water may help also...the wt. is med induced don't sweat it...Love Julie

Comment by janeo on April 13, 2012 at 7:48am
About the 4lbs I'm sure you still look beautiful. Thinking of you always and have a great day enjoy the sun.
Comment by nancy on April 13, 2012 at 7:42am

I have already noticed a weight gain.I think it's about 4 lbs. more than I care to have. I'm eating like crazy. I was put on prednizone for 5 days also due to allergic reaction and other side effects. New plan for today.

If anyone could end up on a diet after chemo. it would be me!

Jane, I sometimes forget too. I don't know when in the last 7 mos. that things reversed but he comes to me every day for a hug and kiss and tells me he loves me. He texts me throughout the day to make sure I'm up and doing something and he knows if I'm fibbing!

It looks beautiful outside here in upstate NY. I plan to relax outside after chemo. this afternoon. Fresh air!!!

Keep your heads up all and keep smiling. Another week has almost come to an end!Hope it was tolerable and maybe even good!

Hugs and prayers. Don't forget to laugh! Peace

Comment by janeo on April 12, 2012 at 10:33pm
Nancy, I forget sometimes he needs me too. I just didn't lose a husband, my son lost a father and sometimes I forget that.
Comment by CaliforniaDreamer on April 12, 2012 at 10:25pm

Nancy, just be forewarned that some of the chemo cocktails have steroids in them and may cause you to gain weight. If that happens, it's better for you, than loosing weight while on chemo. You can talk to your Oncologist about it. I'll try and remember any little tidbits I can for you. Do you have a MediPort installed? It will save the veins in your arms and Shelley should have had one her first round as she had problems with the veins in her arms from chemo.

Comment by nancy on April 12, 2012 at 10:02pm

Jane, happy to have made your son laugh and Mom son bonding is something that I have never appreciated more then now.

Julie, I don't feel pressure. Wasn't sure how to word my feelings. I have come on here numerous times after feeling so good and then...bam. You all know what I mean. But everybody needs a motivator and coming on here and reading and rereading is my motivator. Sometimes it's my own words that keep me motivated!My motivation for going to exercise class is that all of the people there are cancer SURVIVORS. They're done with their treatments. I want to be just like them!

So I hope as long as I'm in this place I can be encouraging to somebody too.

Oh yeah, Luckily I don't have a dog because I would never remember to put my stuff up...never. LOL

I'm grateful for you all.Hugs and prayers always.

Comment by Julie Stearns on April 12, 2012 at 9:22pm

Nancy, you are still allowed to come to this site and down load, cry scream, what ever!!! Do NOT feel pressure that you have to be all that and more. you are still human going through some really tough SHI!!!!!!!T LOL,  sending you hugs and make sure you put your hair and boobs up so that the dog doesn't eat mom had a dog eat her teeth...ick!!!!LOL

Comment by janeo on April 12, 2012 at 7:02pm
Nancy, your just too funny. You even made my son laugh. And he hates this site cause I spend to much time here. I hope everyday gets better you and everyone on here. Watching the ranger playoff with my son.Prayers with you all. Nancy keep smiling we all love ta
Comment by Carol Kayser on April 12, 2012 at 6:39pm

Hi Nancy - awesome!  I love animals and pictures and all the funny comments that come with them!  Oh and hey, that you can share laughter over your hair - priceless!!!  I look at my hair in the mirror and wonder where the heck it has all gone!!!  I especially tell my little granddaughter - don't pull my hair Abby, grandma only has a little left!


Keep up the laughs!



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