Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by janeo on April 13, 2012 at 9:14pm
Joan, I'm sorry for you lost but glad you found this site. You have wonderful support and make a lot of friend who know what your going threw..I list my husband 28 months ago and still in shock he's not coming home.But I keep hearing mourning has no time line. As you come to this site the best thing is you can say what you feel and no judgement.we are all in the same boat. You will feel comfort and prayers from everyone.
Comment by Joan C. Sellarole on April 13, 2012 at 8:53pm

I have just joined this group and looking forward to receiving support and hopefully being able to support others. I lost my soulmate, Jeff almost 5 years ago and still can't get used to it. I know he is always with me and I still talk to him everyday. Does anyone else? But sometimes it makes me miss him even more.

Comment by Laura Vasile on April 13, 2012 at 6:12pm

Keep up the good fight, Nancy. It's been 9 years since my chemo and 5 since I lost Frank. Everything I accomplished is because of the support of so many. Keep up the great work. I love the idea of crossing off 1 task. When you look back you'll feel better. Hope you have a great day.

Comment by nancy on April 13, 2012 at 2:35pm

Thanks Jane, you're too kind!

Julie I will def. try the warm water and lemon juice. I seriously need to curb the deluxe brownie sundaes!! I've decided to use the sundaes as a reward if I go to my exercise classes all week. We'll see how that works. I also eat out of being bored when I'm alone! I need to make some more adjustments. Still tweekin me. Baby steps right?

Betsy, steroids are so beneficial to an asthmatic and cancer pt. The plusses far outway the neg. I just have to shake the thought the I'll have to worry about losing wt. The nurse told me that women being treated for breast cancer frequently gain wt. because of the steroids needed to curb all of the side effects. The particular chemo. works the best so they rather give you drugs for the nastiness and keep you on that drug. I can't argue with that.

It's going to be a beautiful weekend. I have lots of yard work and walking to do while I'm on steroids! So everybody get outside..invite a friend over or better yet go to a friends house and cook out.All of the Spring blooms are beautiful!

Be the best you can be today and do it for you! It really feels good. I sat through chemo. with my wonderful sil and did alot of laughing...made other people laugh too. So I'm good.Got my "big girl pants on"!

Hugs and prayers for us all! Peace

Comment by Julie Stearns on April 13, 2012 at 7:57am

Nancy if you are on prednisone a diuretic will probably get rid of that wt. a little lemon juice in warm water may help also...the wt. is med induced don't sweat it...Love Julie

Comment by janeo on April 13, 2012 at 7:48am
About the 4lbs I'm sure you still look beautiful. Thinking of you always and have a great day enjoy the sun.
Comment by nancy on April 13, 2012 at 7:42am

I have already noticed a weight gain.I think it's about 4 lbs. more than I care to have. I'm eating like crazy. I was put on prednizone for 5 days also due to allergic reaction and other side effects. New plan for today.

If anyone could end up on a diet after chemo. it would be me!

Jane, I sometimes forget too. I don't know when in the last 7 mos. that things reversed but he comes to me every day for a hug and kiss and tells me he loves me. He texts me throughout the day to make sure I'm up and doing something and he knows if I'm fibbing!

It looks beautiful outside here in upstate NY. I plan to relax outside after chemo. this afternoon. Fresh air!!!

Keep your heads up all and keep smiling. Another week has almost come to an end!Hope it was tolerable and maybe even good!

Hugs and prayers. Don't forget to laugh! Peace

Comment by janeo on April 12, 2012 at 10:33pm
Nancy, I forget sometimes he needs me too. I just didn't lose a husband, my son lost a father and sometimes I forget that.
Comment by CaliforniaDreamer on April 12, 2012 at 10:25pm

Nancy, just be forewarned that some of the chemo cocktails have steroids in them and may cause you to gain weight. If that happens, it's better for you, than loosing weight while on chemo. You can talk to your Oncologist about it. I'll try and remember any little tidbits I can for you. Do you have a MediPort installed? It will save the veins in your arms and Shelley should have had one her first round as she had problems with the veins in her arms from chemo.

Comment by nancy on April 12, 2012 at 10:02pm

Jane, happy to have made your son laugh and Mom son bonding is something that I have never appreciated more then now.

Julie, I don't feel pressure. Wasn't sure how to word my feelings. I have come on here numerous times after feeling so good and then...bam. You all know what I mean. But everybody needs a motivator and coming on here and reading and rereading is my motivator. Sometimes it's my own words that keep me motivated!My motivation for going to exercise class is that all of the people there are cancer SURVIVORS. They're done with their treatments. I want to be just like them!

So I hope as long as I'm in this place I can be encouraging to somebody too.

Oh yeah, Luckily I don't have a dog because I would never remember to put my stuff up...never. LOL

I'm grateful for you all.Hugs and prayers always.


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