Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Carol Kayser on September 4, 2012 at 10:19pm
Nancy. That is so difficult. You have to care of yourself but yet as Maggie says we give and give to our kids. I am in a little of the same boat. My eldest had been driving her dad's BMW for 2 years. I try and ask for it back, make hints which fall onto closed ears. So I wait patiently. I actually gave a lot, pretty much the majority of the money I received to the kids. So I can't judge or make a suggestion really. I do understand it though when grandchildren are involved, since I gave my daughter the down payment on their house when she was pregnant.

Prayers for you Nancy to decide what you need.
Comment by janeo on September 4, 2012 at 10:01pm
Jannice, I laugh and cried the same time because I have a counter full of medicine, always with the scale and I eat early bird specials. Didn't forget the keys in the frid yet.I'm constantly in the hair die dept. That was great I really enjoy that so if you have any more good ones pass them on to us.
Comment by MaggieP on September 4, 2012 at 9:41pm
I know how grieving and greed change people. Through the years friends have told horror stories about their experiences. I could never be that way. I an too trusting and open. I like things, but not at somebody else's expense. I suppose that is why I am so blindsided by the actions of others. I have been told that you judge others by your own actions. Well, enough of this. I just want to move on with my life.

Thanks for sharing that poem Jane. He is right here in my heart, and nobody can take that away.

Nancy, it is difficult to say no. Especially when there are young children involved. The big thing right now is for you to make sure you have what you need. If the purse is always open, how will any one learn to get along with what they have. I know that I have been helped by my parents, and in turn, I have helped out my children. no does not come easy to my lips.
Comment by janice shannon on September 4, 2012 at 9:35pm

My sister sent this to me today, it is pretty cute, maybe it will bring a smile to your faces.   Prayer for strength, comfort and peace for all of us.    Janice

Comment by janeo on September 4, 2012 at 9:24pm
Thank you, Jean, Faith and Carol
I saw this saying in a catalog believe it or not I thought it was beautiful too.
Comment by nancy on September 4, 2012 at 8:58pm

Of course this comes out 3 days before the first anniv. of his death. I know what my heart feels and I also know what I should do. It's so hard without him!!

Comment by Mac on September 4, 2012 at 8:40pm

Jane that is so beautiful / Jean

Comment by nancy on September 4, 2012 at 8:34pm

Mystepdaughter wants to use my(john's ) truck until Nov. because her reg. was suspended until Nov. She has never been honest with us about anything. I really feel like she's lying again(probably lapsed ins.), I'm not stupid. My problem is the same as it always was with my husband...if you don't help, the kids(4 grandchildren from her) will suffer. She will be 33 this year. John bailed her out all of the time. I stopped bailing his son because he lies to me. I have bad feelings about this. I can't sleep and I worry about my ins. I just put $2000 into making it safe for the winter. There is no trust there. I already know I need to get the truck back, What about my loyalty to my husband????? Those kids used him and his love. Only called him when they needed money or a bail out and he did it! He loved them sooo much. Kept thinking..maybe this time they'll turn it around...OMG I want to scream!!!!

Comment by Faith J. on September 4, 2012 at 8:05pm
That was beautiful!
Comment by Carol Kayser on September 4, 2012 at 7:51pm

Jane, that is beautiful, thanks for sharing.


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