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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Greg: I'm coming to the dog adoption discussion late, but it still appears that you are on the look. I adopted a 4 1/2 year old Golden Retriever last July. She has been a savior for me. She added focus to my days and it is great to come home from work to a dog eager to play.
I was working through As Good as Gold (an Illinois based Golden rescue group) but ended up finding my dog at a local Humane Society. My dog is so gentle and well behaved. A typical Golden.
There are a couple of Golder Retriever rescue groups in Michigan:
Both list their dogs through Pet Finder and it appears that both have dogs available for adoption (although only the first has actual pictures of the available dogs).
How was everyone's weekend? Today I took my dog Abbie to an agility trial. Since Rob became sick, I had not trialed and she qualified for Nationals in June so I need to get her back out there and in the competitive spirit for our trip. Nationals was something that Rob and I were going to make a vacation out of. Rent an RV and take both dogs. He was just as excited as me to go and I know he wouldn't want me to miss it. Abbie did great today and it was nice for me to get away and get my mind into something else and do something that I love to do and something that Rob was so proud of. But then on my hour and half drive home, that sinking feeling hit that I would arrive home and he wouldn't be here. I couldn't make that phone call to him that I was on my home with a run down of how we did. And I had to step back into reality of my life without him. :(
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's still raw. to be honest I'm still in shock and it's been 4 years. But I can tell you it does get better. I knew nothing not even how to write a check or pay the bills. But with all the help on this site my friends here that we consider an extended family helped so much and gave me the confidence to learn new stuff on my own. It does takes time. But the hurt doesn't go away but we just learn to cope and go on another day. Stay strong !
I have been busy cleaning up and cleaning out everything. It's only been 18 days, and I cry just trying to get things organized. I cannot even think about doing anything with his things. My bedroom is still just like it was the day it happened. Thinking about getting rid of any of his stuff hurts so much. And I do have a few of those pushy people around, who think I should get on with my life. Like nothing ever happened.
I'm so sorry Greg. I started to write a post and had to delete it. I'm only 8 weeks into this nightmare and have not even thought about what to do with Rob's clothing. I wear his sweatshirts and a T-shirt of his to sleep in. On one hand, it's hard to walk into our closet every day and see all his clothes there, but I can't bring myself to part with them yet. I'm hoping that one day I can get to where you are. (((hugs)))
Greg ... I know how very hard it was to clean out Tracey's closet and so glad you kept her shirt in the pillow case. I cleaned out Ernie's side of the closet a bit at a time, but kept his bathrobe and his work jacket and a few of his t-shirts. I just couldn't part with them. I too gave Ernie's clothing to a charity organization as we both always gave clothing or money to those less fortunate than we were. It keeps our spouse's memory alive and Tracey would be so proud of you. If you have religious faith Greg remember that material things don't matter to our loved ones while they were ill and when they passed away, but there are a few things of theirs we can hold onto to give us some comfort. I'm am very proud of you for having the courage to do what you did.
I'm looking for that special dog for you and will you know when I find one I think you may like. Is there any special breed you would prefer?
Remember my friend you are prayed over and in time the pain will lessen, but memories not forgotten.
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