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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Yes, it's tragic--He was healthy, had quit smoking and had had his knee replaced just over a year before and was in such a good mood as he was pain free. It's hurts to even write it but he chocked to death on bacon...It rips my heart out that something like that could happen to him! We'd been together 33 years and I'm finding it so hard to live without my rock as he was always there for me. Sudden death is so overwhelming and I can only hope he didn't suffer terribly. I am so sorry your Don seemed to be safe after going through so many surgeries only to die so unexpectedly. My thoughts will be with you tomorrow.
I'm planning to go to our lake cottage tomorrow for the first time since he passed--He'd been going there since he was 8 yrs. old so will feel his vibes strongly. Comforting and painful at the same time--no internet so, but peaceful.
Take care...Deb xxxx
Hi Deb, I am so sorry, accidents are such tragedies, I feel for you. Don had heart problems, but was doing well, all the doctors said, after several surgeries, so it was unexpected, he just didnt wake up. We were married 40 years and he was truly the other half of me. My family will be understanding, but nobody really understands but those of us who are going through it. This is a good place to come to, because everyone knows what you are going through. So welcome to the group that nobody wants to be in. God Bless.
Hi Janice, I am sorry for your loss! This is my first post on here... I lost my Dean just over 5 months ago to a freek accident...it seems the longer it is it goes it gets harder and I feel more alone by the day. I feel your pain. It's like no one else can fill the hole in our lives. We lived outside the US and had become very dependent on each other and I have a small family and for the most part they don't understand what grief feels like. I hope your family will help you through tomorrow and that you will find peace. Big hugs. Deb
Tomorrow morning will be 2 years since the morning Don didnt wake up, and I have never felt so alone in my life. I just dont know whst to do with myself.
Its been at least 6 months since I've posted on here, I have been busy with my large family and 2 great-grandbabies, and thought I have been doing ok, but I woke up this morning feeling like I had been punched in the stomach and its been horrible all day. I thought I'd come back here and tell the only people who really truly understand.
I see new people here, so welcome and please know I feel your pain.
Hi Frank Nice to see you post. I have not been posting at all recently as I cannot face telling the story of my husbands death.it will be 4 years on the 4th aUGUST AND I seem to be going backward. The pain never lets up for a minute unless I am asleep.. and he is centre front of my mind at all other times. I sometimes feel I will go mad with grief and the though I might have years to suffer this until, we meet again (if we do, sometimes I doubt that also). i hope the new members on legacy find it sas much a help as I did though if you saw me now you would doubt that but I seriously think I would have ended in the rifer at the end of my garden without it at the beginning. Sorry you seem to be much in the same state as me still Frank. I have around 5 friends left now only two of which I feel I can still cry with. All the other offers have disappeared like smoke. I wish everyone the best.
Thanks Steve, my sister happens to work in a hospital in the area & one of her co-workers works for hospice but they only offer joining a group which totally interferes with my work schedule because it is during the afternoon hours, so I tried to look for bereavement groups in my area only to be disappointed again because they are very far or in areas that are not safe to go to during evening hours, so needless to say, this site has been my life saver, can't thank you enough for starting it, have met so many caring people that are going thru the same thing & completely understand my feelings & if I need to vent all the time or once in awhile, thanks for your response, will continue to look for groups that may start in my area.
Hi Elvira. I feel your pain. Gus has now been gone 5 months and I feel just as lost today as I did when it happened. I too am having terrible problems with focus and concentration, to the point where I just can't seem to get any work done and it's really affecting my business and productivity. I keep trying to motivate myself but it's just not there. We did celebrate my daughter's 16th birthday this weekend with family and her friends and that was a nice distraction. Of course I can't stop thinking that her daddy wasn't here to be part of it, but it was important to make it a good day for her and we managed to do that and put the tears aside for the day. Please try to look forward to your son's wedding coming up and know that as heartbroken as you are to be part of it without your husband that somehow as moms we need to muster up the strength to celebrate for our kids and make the day special for them. I let myself laugh last night at the restaurant and probably enjoyed myself with family for the first time in a long time without tears. Of course the tears came back today, but we showed my daughter a happy birthday last night with the help of my husband's brother and his family and it was okay. I hope you can try to do that too for the wedding. Take care.
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