Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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RENAE -- YOU ARE IN OUR PRAYERS!
FIRST LET ME APOLOGIZE FOR TYPING IN ALL CAPS.... I AM RAPIDLY LOSING MY VISION! THE DOCTORS ARE UNSURE WHY AT THIS TIME, BUT I HAVE WONDERFUL DOCTORS THAT ARE DOING EVERY THING IMAGINABLE TO FIND OUT THE CAUSE AND ARE TREATING WHAT THEY CAN AT THIS TIME. I AM ASKING FOR PRAYERS!!! I DO NOT WANT TO LOSE MY INDEPENDENCE. I ALREADY HAVE BEEN TOLD I CAN NOT DRIVE AND WITH BOTH MY DAUGHTERS IN NURSING SCHOOL, SCEDULING APPOINTMENTS IS HARD, BUT WE ARE MAKING IT WORJ. MY VISION COMES AND GOES SO I THOUGHT WHILE I CAN SOMEWHAR MAKE OUT THE SCREEN I WOULD ASK FOR PRAYER. THIS HAS BEEN SUCH A DIFFICULT 8 MONTHS SINE I LOST MY HUSBAND. THANK YOU TO AL OF YOU FOR YOUR SUPORT.
You poem speaks for all of us. Thanks for the responses and I hope the angels on this forum can ease the grief of new members by telling their stories and how they coped with the really bad days we all face.
I have not posted in some time but I think of you all often.
To the new ones I am deeply sorry for your grief. It turns our world upside down, and just the feeling of being lost and alone is devastating.
The people on this forum have been so helpful and caring in ways that help so very much because of them going, or been through the same thing.
My Mike has been gone now for a bit over 2 years and I still miss him as much as the day God called him home. Yes I still cry even though its not like it was. But there is not a day that goes by that I dont think of him multiple time thoughout it.
I did alot of writting, still do during this so called grief process and that has been what has helped me. I do hope that you all find some type of outlet to be able to get it out. Bottled up pain with no way to share, makes the grieving process even more difficult. Never feel you cannot ask or share what your dealing with, we have all been there where you are.
Here is one of my writting and how I feel even still today, Hugs to all of you ... Always Cheryl
Remembering you ...
In the silence of time, your not there
I search I listen everywhere
I long to hear that laugh you had
And share them again, I wish we had
But time changes nothing
At this time for me
Its sorrow and saddness
Loneliness, you see
Deep in my heart
Ill always cherish you
When no one else has a clue
Never will I forget
Times we shared
And in loving you
I hope you knew
How very much i truly cared
Though I don't post very often, like Frank, I come, very often, to read the posts of others -- Jane P, you are so full of wisdom; Marsha, so empathetic and encouraging. I don't have a talent for giving the right words, to the right people, at the right time (quite the contrary, most often), but I am so very grateful for all who have helped me, here on Legacy, over the past 26 months. May God bless your loving, caring hearts with peace and comfort during your own moments of grief.
Trina ... It's wonderful to see you post again and to know how you are doing. You know hon, I still do what you do, 'tricks of the mind.' Even after 4 1/2 years of my beloved Ernie's passing I play tricks off and on (bad days) where he's at work or he's gone fishing with a friend, but as you say reality does hit us eventually. These tricks with our minds is simply survival and is very normal. I am so proud of you for handling things the way you are and remember hon, even though you don't think you're getting stronger you are and you're making Joseph proud of you. He is nearer to you than you may think.
May you have peace and blessings to keep you safe, loved by family and know that all of us here are rooting for you as we root for each other.
Dear Steve ... What a wonderful quote 'Joy is a luxury.' Even though we had our spouses in our lives in the past there were good/bad days as well, but now that we're alone it's magnified 100 times. Even after 4 1/2 years since my Ernie has been gone I still feel like I can be taking two steps forward and 4 steps back, but please ponder this ... what is keeping us all going and where does this strength come from. We are still here for a reason and I suppose the best way to put it is we still have work to do on this earth. We can reach out to others to help with their pain, volunteer in any capacity one wants and do so many other things in memory of our loved one. Oh yes, there are days I can hardly get out of bed, but I force myself and as the day goes on I hit the bumps, try to resolve them yet get out, walk my dogs and enjoy nature as if ending either a bad/good day on an up-beat note. As we grieve and the months go by we learn new tricks to help us get through the heartbreak. The sadness will become a dull roar even though it won't be gone completely. Each of us should be so proud for the baby steps we have taken in this strange journey of grief. Nothing lasts forever.
Prayers coming your way and wishing you peace and joy.
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