Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by janeo on October 31, 2015 at 3:23pm

Marsha, on my way. LOL

Comment by Marsha H on October 29, 2015 at 5:10am

Jane P ...  Credit should always go to the right person.  See, my memory isn't going just yet.  LOL I think releasing a balloon on a special occasion for our spouses is such a wonderful and freeing experience.



Comment by Jane P. on October 29, 2015 at 4:53am

Marsha you are too kind to give me credit!  To repeat an old message about the balloons.....The funeral home were my husband was viewed has a yearly ceremony for the decedents families, when the ceremony was completed they handed us all a balloon with a felt tipped pen to inscribe whatever we wanted onto the balloon, and together we all released our balloons.  There was such comfort in watching that inscribed balloon float out of sight with my heart felt inscribed message.   Just remember if sending a balloon make sure it is in an open area free of power lines.  Hugs, Jane P

Comment by Marsha H on October 29, 2015 at 4:29am

Dear Georgia ...  I can't take full credit for the ideas of the balloons and I do believe it was Jane P a year or so ago that urged us to do this.  I find it really helps.  So happy you are doing that and I do it on Valentine's Day and our Anniversary.



Comment by Marsha H on October 29, 2015 at 4:28am

Dear Trina ...  So are very welcome.  Just because some of don't feel like posting doesn't mean all of us others don't think of you.  I know just how you feel as I'm retired so try to get out of the house every day.  I leave the TV on just to hear voices when I come home.  I still miss my dear Ernie, but not the intensity it once was.  I still have my cries off and on and of course winter months certainly don't liven the mood. 

Have you ever considered getting a pet or perhaps you have one.  My two small dogs give me great comfort especially when I'm low and keep me moving. 

Remember Trina, Joseph is watching over you so you are never alone.



Comment by Rolland Wood on October 28, 2015 at 1:17am
Carol Kayser, As far as misspellings go, No Worries, I'm quite used to it, as the old saying goes "You can call me anything, just don't call me late for supper" ;-) Rolland
Comment by Rolland Wood on October 27, 2015 at 8:28pm
Georgia, Thank you for saying so and thanks for understanding. Unfortunately all of us in this forum understand loss all too well. Rolland
Comment by georgia on October 27, 2015 at 7:53pm
Hi Roland, Iam also very sorry that the chain broke and your rings are missing, maybe they will be found , . I will pray for that. The ad on papers is a very good suggestion, also there is a community post in Ill. Where I live ,maybe there is something like that in your community???
Also as we all know every birthday, anniversary and every holiday is very hard BUT I LIKE TO THANK MARSHA FOR WRITING HOW SHE RELEASES BALLONS for marking the day.
It helps me and I also write a note and tie it on the strings.
Thank you Marsha.
Also when I get the courage to remove some of Louie's shirts I will make a quilt,
I also read this from someone here?.
Thank 's everyone.
It was Louies and my anniversary on the 16th ,
38 years,
I miss him so much.
Comment by Trina Mamoon on October 27, 2015 at 7:30pm

Dear Marsha,

You are an angel! You are always so kind to the rest of us. Anytime we reach out, you are sure to respond and you respond in an emotional way. So thank you for reaching out to me again.

I've tried very hard to keep it all together since my darling Joseph's passing about 15 months ago. I am still keeping it together in spite of my deep grief, but somehow the everyday grind seems harder to bear. I come home in the evenings after my teaching (I stay on campus for as long a I can) and it's so hard to face the empty house, the empty spot on the sofa, the empty armchair where Joseph used to sit for the last few months of his life. I am finding it harder to keep myself going once I come back home...

So thank you again for reaching out.  

Hugs, Trina

Comment by Carol Kayser on October 26, 2015 at 9:54pm
Yes I saw that Rolland, apologies as I spelt your name wrong. Where do you live, which state as that sounds like a southern drawl pronunciation but maybe not. I'm Canadian so I hear things differently lol!

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