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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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I hope your weather out there does allow you to have some peaceful time by the lake with Ethan - the picture in my mind of you strolling together is one of great beauty even with it's sadness in your longing for Paul. My thoughts and prayers travel across the country to you both today -
The verse from the song Ken wrote you is so very beautiful that it brought tears to my eyes. Nothing could ever possibly take the place of such a perfectly matched soul mate for you. I am sending my prayers and love today, and know Ken will help you through today - he watches and protects you every minute.
Sorry you have to go through the Anniversary no one wants. It's almost a year, at times it seems like yesterday other times, long time ago. Me and Diane were set up by friend at work, we always messed with each other. Finally his wife called and said I don't blame you for not trusting Ted you can trust me she is nice I think you would like her. We set up a double date but wanted to meet first. We met at an Antique Place when she got out of the car, and I saw her she said I had the biggest smile that made her feel good. Half way through the date I told myself don't screw this up I think we could have something special. She told me she felt the same way too. Hope you have a tolerable day Sara.
Good Morning, today is one year since I lost the love of my life. I can't believe it's been that long, it seems like just yesterday. On the positive side, I'm now one year closer to being with him again.
At some point before we got married (in May 89), Ken wrote a song for me and although I didn't realize it at the time because I was so young, he knew instantly that we were soul mates. In fact, he told me on our second date that he would marry me. This is a verse from his song that indicates I was his soul mate:
"Now I need you for a lifetime, the other half that makes me whole. You've become such a part of me, to lose you now would mean the end. Our spirits begin to intertwine, your thoughts have become mine. Two souls joined in one, a bond between cannot be undone"
I don't know how he knew, he was only 22 when he wrote that. Truer words could not have been spoken.
Brenda ... Having problems with the link where you sent your message and will keep trying.
Sherri ... What you are going through is very normal and you just cry when you want to, sleep when you want to and don't let anyone tell you that your grief should be over at a certain time frame. We each grieve differently. Your post really hit the nail on the head. I have to admit that coming up in April it will be 6 years since my beloved Ernie passed and I talk to him all the time, but, as you said, the loneliness is the worst part of it.
I have a double whammy. I'm retired and just turned 75 although people say I don't look it (good genes) but still, I'm treated like I've got one foot on a banana peel and one in the grave and it hurts. I get treated often like a China doll mainly because I'm petite, but have loads of energy and ready to be helpful in any aspect of my life. I am still in my home and do all the work and also have a lot of gardens which I maintain so how old can I be! It's not easy trying to meld in with people my age because often they are having health issues and so far (thank God) I don't have any serious health issues, but I'm aware this isn't going to last forever so I want to live each day to the fullest. It's not as easy as it seems and I've joined many things hoping to make new friends and I have, but they don't socialize much. I have decided this year I'm going for the younger crowd and have been invited out to a club by an woman acquaintance and her husband and they are in their mid 50's. I just can't get my older friends to move a muscle and it makes me feel all the lonelier so hope my 90 degree turn for a bit younger crowd helps me get out more socially.
Sometimes I get so lonely that I can cry at the drop of a hat. Legacy helps a great deal, but it's where we live and who we are around that can make you lonely.
Coming onto Legacy brings us back to reality that we truly aren't alone and this is our 2nd family who truly understands what each of us is going through. It has saved my life.
So my dear friend, just go at your own pace and know all the feelings you are experiencing are very normal. You have the right attitude of keeping busy and I would be walking my dogs more, but we've had a lot of snow and now ice on top of that so walking isn't in the cards right now and oh, how I miss it (so do my dogs. LOL)
The last part of your post, struck home with me. I had to read it a couple of times, sums everything up in a couple of sentences.
I know that we are all in the same boat. So although it doesn't make me feel any better, it does make me feel less alone. Because really, the "aloneness" of it all is really the worst part, I think
Well done Sheri
Sara, Marsha, Harold and all...will check out that movie as it sounds helpful. And happy belated birthday, Marsha. I think of all of you pretty much every morning when I do my walk and talk to Bill on my way to the gym. It's only about 5 minutes each way but it helps me set up the rest of my day. When I think of all of you (and myself), it's to wonder how all of us get thru each day with the grief of what we have in our hearts? It's less than 5 months for me since Bill passed and I cry multiple times per day with the sorrow of it all. I know that we are all in the same boat. So although it doesn't make me feel any better, it does make me feel less alone. Because really, the "aloneness" of it all is really the worst part, I think. That and all the questions that we'll never have answers for. I continue to keep all of you in my heart and pray for peace for all of us.
Marsha....I've not heard of that movie but I'll have to try to watch it sometime. One thing I'm not sure is possible in my situation is finding ME. I met Ken when I was 20 yrs old. He was a daily part of my life since the day we met. Nobody is the same person now as they were at 20 whether or not you've lost a spouse. The only ME I know is the one that has Ken intertwined with me. I'm not sure where I go from here.
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