Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


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Need Advice:Grief and Chronic Fatigue

Started by Kaela Roster Federle. Last reply by Kaela Roster Federle yesterday. 27 Replies

On the last day of our vacation my husband died.

Started by Andrew Berenyi Jr.. Last reply by Deb S yesterday. 34 Replies

My love is gone...

Started by Chris Sky. Last reply by deborah peck Sep 12. 18 Replies

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Comment by DJ on February 14, 2017 at 3:06pm

Gail; so sorry for your loss.  Time hasn't so much healed, as it has allowed me to cope; as you say, the hole in my heart is still there.  

You are a gem to give us good wishes as you struggle.  Although none of us wanted the event that brought us here, for me this has been a very comforting place.

Comment by Marsha H on February 14, 2017 at 3:05pm

Todd ...  It's always wonderful to hear from you.  It is very normal to go into a shell after being through holiday and even during a holiday as there are so many memories and also, we often see couples together.  This Valentine's Day will be difficult, but I still buy a card for Ernie and put it on his box of ashes and then buy a helium balloon and write love notes on it and send it sailing to the heavens at his favorite spot by the river.  I know it sounds crazy, but it gives me peace.

When you feel down and out and lonely that's the time you should come on Legacy so we can stand behind you and hold you up.  We are family and we'll all get through this.

Big hug (because you need it)


Comment by DJ on February 14, 2017 at 2:59pm

Deb:  I'll be joining that date - with root beer and chocolates - toasting all those who have wound up on this site.  Ironic, the most constant comfort I've had since I crash-landed on this site is from everyone else who also wished they didn't arrive here.  We seem to be a pretty good group of "never wanted to be" friends.

Comment by Gretchen G on February 14, 2017 at 1:56pm
Debbie - count me in! Got my bottle of wine sitting on the kitchen counter ready for when I get home.
Comment by Gretchen G on February 14, 2017 at 1:54pm
Gail... so sorry for your loss. You've come to a great place - we all understand and support each other.
Comment by Deb S on February 14, 2017 at 1:48pm

Todd, Great! It's a date!  Anyone else want to join us?  Debbie

Comment by Deb S on February 14, 2017 at 1:48pm

Gail, I am so sorry for the sudden loss of your husband. My husband passed away on July 22, 2015. He had been apparently healthy one night and on life support the next morning. It is difficult to learn how to live alone and gain a sense of peace and purpose. I find it difficult to even determine how I'd like my house to be function right now, i.e. I have a huge house - how will it work best for me?

Please take care of you. I find this helps me heal. Debbie

Comment by Gail Brooks on February 14, 2017 at 12:47pm
New to this site. My husband died suddenly one morning on July 10 2015. It's been a rough painful ride to this point at 20 months. We were married 35 wonderful years. At 70 learning to live alone and gain some sense of peace has been a challenge. I hope you are finding good ways to cope. I see friends and family, volunteer am in a book club, taking a course at local college but there is that big hole in my heart that seems to never leave.
Comment by Todd B. Goodrich on February 14, 2017 at 11:27am

Deb, thank you so much! I will join you tonight and open a beer! Always good hoist up a beverage in honor of our loves! Take care today! Graciously,


Comment by Deb S on February 14, 2017 at 11:08am

Sherri, Like you, I'm having a difficult time getting motivated today. We will get through it although it likely will not be an easy day. Take care of you today.  Debbie


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