Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Deb S ... I'll be having a White Russian this evening sitting in front of a roaring fire and have a small talk with Ernie. The best I can come up with. Thanks for inviting all of us. We'll get through this.
Dear Gail ... My deepest condolences on the loss of your husband. My husband Ernie passed away in 2011 and I was just turning 70 (my first birthday alone) since we were married almost 40 years and I knew him 45 years. I know exactly how you feel trying to reinvent a new life for yourself when we are at a retirement age.
I'm in the same boat you are. I volunteer for a dog shelter and I'm OK there while kept busy and I also go to Bible Study. However, it doesn't seem to matter how busy I get that hole in the heart is still there. I am now trying to find a mix group of widows/widowers to try and connect with.
We know we're stronger than we think, but grief is a rough ride and all of here understand exactly what you are going through.
Gail; so sorry for your loss. Time hasn't so much healed, as it has allowed me to cope; as you say, the hole in my heart is still there.
You are a gem to give us good wishes as you struggle. Although none of us wanted the event that brought us here, for me this has been a very comforting place.
Todd ... It's always wonderful to hear from you. It is very normal to go into a shell after being through holiday and even during a holiday as there are so many memories and also, we often see couples together. This Valentine's Day will be difficult, but I still buy a card for Ernie and put it on his box of ashes and then buy a helium balloon and write love notes on it and send it sailing to the heavens at his favorite spot by the river. I know it sounds crazy, but it gives me peace.
When you feel down and out and lonely that's the time you should come on Legacy so we can stand behind you and hold you up. We are family and we'll all get through this.
Big hug (because you need it)
Deb: I'll be joining that date - with root beer and chocolates - toasting all those who have wound up on this site. Ironic, the most constant comfort I've had since I crash-landed on this site is from everyone else who also wished they didn't arrive here. We seem to be a pretty good group of "never wanted to be" friends.
Todd, Great! It's a date! Anyone else want to join us? Debbie
Gail, I am so sorry for the sudden loss of your husband. My husband passed away on July 22, 2015. He had been apparently healthy one night and on life support the next morning. It is difficult to learn how to live alone and gain a sense of peace and purpose. I find it difficult to even determine how I'd like my house to be function right now, i.e. I have a huge house - how will it work best for me?
Please take care of you. I find this helps me heal. Debbie
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