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Bereaved Spouses

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My love is gone...

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I used to love long week ends.

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Comment by Marsha H on February 18, 2017 at 5:06am

I wanted to share this truly amazing young singer singing 'The Prayer.'  What amazing talent.

http://www.faithpot.com/marcelito-pomoy-sings-the-prayer/?utm_sourc...

Comment by Sara Murphy on February 17, 2017 at 5:58pm

Tiffany.....We're here for you to vent so no need to apologize.  I can understand why you would be mad.  I hope in time you feel that knowing is better than not.

Hugs to you,

Sara

Comment by Marsha H on February 17, 2017 at 3:30pm

Tiffany ...  It's OK to be mad at your husband and it's normal for grief.  I still can get mad at Ernie for leaving me as he was stubborn as well when going to a doctor and before he went into hospital which was to be Whipple Surgery for his pancreas he became very secretive and he didn't want me to go to doctor's visits and later after his death I found out some of our neighbors knew more of what was going on with him than I did.  It hurt my heart as I'd always been there for him, but sometimes men just never think they'll get anything seriously wrong with them and still get up and go to work.  It leaves us feeling if they shared with us there would have been something we could have done for them like strap them over the roof of the car and drive them to the doctors.  You get as mad as you want and get it out of your system and know it's perfectly normal to feel this way.

 

Comment by Corey on February 17, 2017 at 3:29pm
Aw Tiffany, I'm so sorry. Maybe it will end up being a good thing in terms of closure but now I'm sure it just makes the pain worse, as if that's even possible. I'm glad you shared. Sending hugs
Comment by Tiffany Phillips on February 17, 2017 at 2:42pm

Just got the call today, cause of death was acute bronchitis leading to cardiac arrest.  Knowing hit harder than I thought it would, it didn't make me feel any better.  If anything a bit mad at him for being so stubborn about going to the doctor.  Sorry I just kinda, wanted to share I guess.. 

Comment by Tiffany Phillips on February 17, 2017 at 2:42pm

Just got the call today, cause of death was acute bronchitis leading to cardiac arrest.  Knowing hit harder than I thought it would, it didn't make me feel any better.  If anything a bit mad at him for being so stubborn about going to the doctor.  Sorry I just kinda, wanted to share I guess.. 

Comment by Harold McKinstry on February 17, 2017 at 8:55am

Todd
I too took a small break from posting after the Holidays also. Thank You for the Shout Out for making it through the first Anniversary. It's funny the word Anniversary used to have a positive vibe, now it's a negative vibe to do with Diane's death. Sorry you have to have the same for Claudia's. I guess we all hate this new Reality that has been forced on us. I realized I needed to push myself a little for this year, joined a Gym working with a personal trainer. I feel lot better used to wake up with back aches, not any more. Was able to go to the second notch on my belt instead of the first. That quote you had was excellent even though we hate it, we can't change it and do the best we can.

Comment by Harold McKinstry on February 17, 2017 at 8:36am

Tiffany

Sounds like you did the best you could for Valentines Day. It's such a short time for you since the passing of your Husband, I'm sure everything seems unreal and crazy. I understand what you mean it doesn't feel right.  It's been little over a year for me, it never gets easy or pain free, I guess I have learned to tolerate it somewhat. Sounds like you are doing the right things, keep putting one foot in front of the other and post on here often. 

Comment by Todd B. Goodrich on February 15, 2017 at 4:10pm

Dear Sara,

Thank you so much! This sucks so much. I am trying to work but it is so difficult. Come on 4 o'clock!

 Hugs back to you my friend.

Love,

Todd

Comment by Marsha H on February 15, 2017 at 2:41pm

Tiffany ...  I'm so proud of you for how you handled Valentine's Day as I know just how it feels.  It's almost been 6 years since my Ernie passed away, but I had tears in my eyes off and on all day, bought him a card and wrote love notes on a helium balloon and let it sail to the heavens.  I hope it brought you some comfort going to your husband's gravesite.  I always feel they hear us and right there with us throughout each day and I too talk to Ernie to this day.  I completely understand how you felt going for Pizza with your cousins and they are sweethearts for doing that, but we grievers have the feeling of just half of us being there and miss our spouses so much.  I had a special dinner for myself, talked to Ernie and bought him a Valentine's card and put it on top of his box of ashes and as I said before let the helium balloon with all my love right behind it sail to the heavens.  I think most of us are relieved this occasion in over with.   

 

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