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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Marsha, Thank you for making me smile as I read your sweet post. You ARE an amazing woman. I do hope you find a companion to hang out with or spend your life with depending upon your preference. The loss of our other half is an incredibly lonely experience. I battle loneliness often. I spent time with my neighbor today. She casually mentioned that I should travel more. I didn't have the energy to explain that travel begins to loose its allure when you do not have the love of your life by your side. I am also not dismissing her loving suggestion. This is a new life after all. I enjoy traveling and venturing out again is a great idea.
I've checked into dating sites to satisfy my curiosity. I chatted with a few people and took a leap of faith and met someone for dinner. I came away feeling that it was similar to meeting someone on a plane. We chatted, time passed, the evening finished, and we moved on. I am lonely but still not ready for someone else.
You are further along on this journey of grief and I love that you are taking this forward step. You Go girl! Debbie
Deb S ... It is you that seems to always pop up when I post and I'm so grateful for that. You always make me feel better and I know you truly wish me good luck. Thank you for thinking I'm an amazing woman and here is hoping some nice gentleman will see some good traits in me. Sometimes people go for looks and not what is inside the person. I know dating online isn't going to be easy and I sure will keep all of you up-dated and I ALWAYS feel comfortable. LOL We're family and I have no problem sharing the good with the bad.
I truly hope this day is a good one for you Deb and that things are going a big easier for you.
Marsha, I wish you tons of luck! You are an amazing woman. You have helped me so much through this difficult and continuing journey. Please update when you are comfortable. You have my support and good wishes. Debbie
Steve ... I really appreciate your words of wisdom and of course I would meet separately and after I would never go straight home. I won't give out any personal information with the exception of my first name and I'll take it slow and easy. It's wonderful you met your now wife on Match. We have that one here so I may try that one. I am very nervous about it all and I know I will probably go through a lot of gentleman to find the one that makes me feel comfortable.
The expectations are difficult for sure. I am at 'that age' where many my age have illness' and nothing against them I really don't want to go through grief too quickly once again. I did date once, but the gentleman (and he sure was) took me for dinner, but he was much older than myself and his wife passed around the same time Ernie did. I could sense he was very much in his love with his wife and looking for someone to fill the loss of her and he just wasn't ready to move on so I had to handle that one with kid gloves and not hurt this nice person. I have my niece helping me with my profile so wish me luck everyone. Of course they must love dogs! LOL
Sara ... Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I honestly would prefer to meet someone the good old fashion way, but that's not the reality of it in today's world as I'm sure you know with your 2 sisters finding good partners on a dating site. I really don't feel comfortable being on a dating site, but have no choice. I have tried hard in hopes of meeting someone and it would have been even better if a friend knew a single person, but no luck there. I will be careful and choose a good dating site and not a fly-by-night one. I may just bail out if I do get to meet someone. LOL I am not trying to replace Ernie at all and I know he would like me to be happy. Without a partner be it a friendship or otherwise your world becomes very small and lonely. I just want to live a bit with what years are left.
As long as you are careful and use common sense (first meeting arrive separately, meet in a public place, especially where the staff know you and can help you out of a bad situation, etc,) I think it's a great thing. Not trying to promote anything but I met my now wife on Match. If you temper your expectations and don't do what you don't feel comfortable about you should be fine and could be very successful. Keep us in the loop about what's happening.
Marsha........Good luck with the dating site. I hope you're able to find someone looking for the same thing you are, companionship. I think Ernie would be okay with you wanting someone to go to dinner with and pass the time with until you're reunited. Although you do have to be careful with these sites, there are also many good people who use them. I know several people who met there spouses using a dating site, 2 of which are my sisters. I hope you find what you're looking for.
Diane C ... Thank you so much for your lovely post. Yes, it was a great relief for me when my doctor actually admitted he read my history and continued on with the medication. He did another 90 degree turn really gets my anxiety going.
It was wonderful of you and Rich to do so many things together because I see lots of husbands here that don't. I will admit I even miss Ernie going grocery shopping and I know I'll never get use to it. It will be 6 years for me on April 27th.
I'm going to need all the luck I can get on the dating site and I'm not holding my breath mainly because I'm 75 although people say I don't look or act it. I have a feeling I'll be alone the rest of my life too. I really don't like being alone with all my friends having spouses (not that I would ever marry again or live with someone) but, it's the reality of it all. It's tough making friends with women and I often wonder why that should be. I try my best, but best doesn't always cut it. I don't like traveling alone and miss going over to the Island or just a quick trip somewhere. You made me laugh when you said you would have to train a man. You just never know Diane, miracles happen and here is hoping.
sorry for the duplicate message, I didn't think it took the first one....
YAY Marsha.... I am so glad to hear that you had such a good appointment with your doctor!! I know how much you dreaded that appointment and can only imagine how much better you felt coming home after... I completely understand the going to appts alone. Rich and I did everything together, so even going for groceries is a challenge to me. I've been doing it alone for almost 5 years, but it still doesn't feel right after 25+ years. Guess some things will never change for us. Good luck on the dating site. Sounds like it will be fun for you. I for one am thinking I am starting to get used to the single side of things. Not sure I have enough strength or time to train another man.. haha. I would like the companionship, but after 4-1/2 years that hasn't happened either. So at 60 years old, I will probably stay single, unless an absolute miracle happens... Just not going to hold my breath. Take care and I am so happy for you!!
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