Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Latest Conversations: 17 hours ago
This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
Started by Kaela Roster Federle. Last reply by Mary. Jane 17 hours ago.
Started by Chris Sky. Last reply by deborah peck Sep 12.
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Gretchen ... What a wonderful idea you had with the quilts. I wish I had thought of that myself. You must take a picture when you can and post it so we can so your beautiful handiwork.
Mary.Jane ... How sweet of you to leave such a wonderful post to me. I really do feel everyone's pain on here as I've been through of course myself and I still have some difficult days. It gets so frustrating that I just can't wave a magic wand and the hurt and sadness away from all of you, but now realize grief is a necessary part of life. I am so very proud of each and everyone of you for even getting out of bed and trying your best. It is true that eventually, life will get a bit easier as time goes by although our spouses will forever be in our hearts. I think of all of you often and I always check the forum to be sure a post is answered. Unfortunately, there is a time difference and most on here are in the U.S., while I'm in British Columbia, Canada.
I don't like to take all the credit and I feel God has guided my finger tips over the keyboard to try and bring as much peace and reassurance to each one of you and I hope I succeed if even for a bit of a break for each of you.
It's sunny here today so I'm going to take full advantage of that and take my dogs for a walk and just enjoy the peace and quiet of nature. Then off I go to help[ adopt dogs out which I really do enjoy.
I wish you nothing but sunshine, joy and peace in your heart today and again, so very proud of you Mary.Jane.
Dear Charles ... You know I'm not going to let up on your fantastic writings. LOL Do I have to swing by on my broom!
Love ya brother
Gretchen ... What a beautiful photograph and thanks for sharing.
It's very normal to feel that Paul may not want you to give away his clothing and most of us have gone through it. In fact, I found the opposite and felt if I was giving Ernie's clothing away and a few other things I would feel like he never existed in my life. I slowly gave some things away and when you feel the time is right you will.
Ernie passed April 27, 2011. Yesterday I had my nephews come up and go through countless fishing rods and reels as Ernie loved to fish and we often did go away fishing. Although memories of the good old days of fishing together came back just like Chuck, I didn't cry like I did when I had to sell Ernie's truck/camper and his boat. My nephews took one each of the fishing rods and the others are going to a young man at Bible Study who is a wonderful young person and I know Ernie would be pleased I chose this young man because he will appreciate and look after the fishing rods. After my nephews left and I bundled up the fishing rods and reels I talked out loud to Ernie and told him how I missed those amazing days of sitting in the boat, rods out and just relaxing enjoying the beautiful scenery around us, but now these fishing rods needed to be used. I realized after 3 years of his passing that these were all material things and should be put to good use so I have no doubt Ernie would want his clothing to warm someone less fortunate and give please to others with his boat, truck/camper and fishing rods. You just take it easy as to what you feel you would want to give away. As far as your son walking around in his daddy's shoes perhaps find something else of Paul's to give him in memory of his father.
Making a decision to uproot your whole life and move back to where family lives is a big step and it's normal again to just tell your dad of what you are contemplating because you aren't quite comfortable with the move and I feel you are just trying to be careful and if you decide not to move where family is you won't be disappointing the whole family. Just take one day at a time and I promise you that when the time is right for you, you'll make the right decision.
My friend, I'm so glad your trip went well, and at the risk of repeating myself - I am so happy and proud at the way you are finding life worth living once more. You are amazing, and an inspiration to us all here...well done big guy!
You are always one of my enthusiastic cheerleaders - thank you for always encouraging me to express myself - I feel as though I have a purpose and future because of you my sweet sister, and because of all my family here who make me feel cared for and useful. God bless you all -
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