Bereaved Spouses

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My love.

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Comment by Trina Mamoon on April 3, 2017 at 2:29am

Dear Mary Clough,

It broke my heart to read your post. There's absolutely no need to apologize. Life without our spouse/partner is absolutely agonizing, and we on this site are all familiar with, and understand, the feelings of despair and depression you are facing right now. Take one day at a time, and just try to keep your head above the water. 

My wonderful husband Joseph passed more than two and a half years ago, and I still find it exceedingly difficult; life for me is not worth living, but what can I do? Like everyone else here, I try my best and just take one day a time.  I find that quite not as overwhelming as trying to envisage the rest of my life.

Hang in there. Sending you love and thoughts of peace.


Comment by Mary. Jane on April 2, 2017 at 9:53pm
Thanks Rolland
Comment by Mary. Jane on April 2, 2017 at 9:53pm
Thanks Rolland
Comment by Rolland Wood on April 2, 2017 at 8:28pm
Mary Jane, There is no need to ask for 'Forgiveness' from anybody in this sad club, we're all in the same boat without a paddle at times, sometimes we have to revert to the old dog paddle to keep our heads above water, often our life savers are the friends on this site that can truly understand our pain like nobody else that hasn't suffered the loss of a soul mate can. Sending love your way dear lady, and wishing you peace. Rolland.
Comment by Marsha H on April 2, 2017 at 3:23pm

Soooo brother Chuck are you typing out some of those wise and wonderful words of wisdom and contemplating writing that book?  Thought I forgot didn't you?  LOL

Big hugs,


Your sis Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on April 2, 2017 at 3:20pm

Gretchen ...  What a wonderful idea you had with the quilts.  I wish I had thought of that myself.  You must take a picture when you can and post it so we can so your beautiful handiwork. 

Comment by Marsha H on April 2, 2017 at 3:19pm

Mary.Jane ...  How sweet of you to leave such a wonderful post to me.  I really do feel everyone's pain on here as I've been through of course myself and I still have some difficult days.  It gets so frustrating that I just can't wave a magic wand and the hurt and sadness away from all of you, but now realize grief is a necessary part of life.  I am so very proud of each and everyone of you for even getting out of bed and trying your best.  It is true that eventually, life will get a bit easier as time goes by although our spouses will forever be in our hearts.  I think of all of you often and I always check the forum to be sure a post is answered.  Unfortunately, there is a time difference and most on here are in the U.S., while I'm in British Columbia, Canada. 

I don't like to take all the credit and I feel God has guided my finger tips over the keyboard to try and bring as much peace and reassurance to each one of you and I hope I succeed if even for a bit of a break for each of you.

It's sunny here today so I'm going to take full advantage of that and take my dogs for a walk and just enjoy the peace and quiet of nature.  Then off I go to help[ adopt dogs out which I really do enjoy.

I wish you nothing but sunshine, joy and peace in your heart today and again, so very proud of you Mary.Jane.

Big hugs


Comment by Mary. Jane on April 1, 2017 at 11:34am
MARSHA!! Ok this may sound weird, but I was thinking about you last night...and this is meant as the highest're like our MOM here. You always comment on our posts, and some of these posts are difficult to write, but YOU always respond to what we write and I'd like to thank you. I know I am new here, but I wanted you to know that I have noticed that, and am very appreciative.
Comment by Mary. Jane on April 1, 2017 at 11:28am
OMG Grtecehen, THANK YOU so much!!! I had no idea HOW I was going to make this quilt, as I've never done one b4, and since the tshirts are stretchy, I got several negative responses from "quilters"? You have just given me a perfect gift. Thank you so much.
Comment by Gretchen G on April 1, 2017 at 8:26am
Thanks Marsha, Chuck, & Mary Jane!

Mary Jane - I actually have two tshirt quilts I had gotten made from Paul's shirts. One was his "work" shirts - some button down ones he always wore to work and also tshirts from different shows he was one - and the other was just random tshirts... I swear he lived in tshirts! He had so many!

For awhile I would either sit in the glider or on the floor in Ethan's room and we'd read books with one of the blankets on top of us. But Ethan being the overly independent 2 year old he is, doesn't want to do that anymore. So we read in my bed now. Now that I think of it, I should bring that blanket in here!

But I digress... if you're interested in getting one made, I got mine done through Project Repat. You basically go online, order the size of blanket you want, and send them the shirts. Few weeks later they send the blanket back to you. I'm sure there are other places that make them also, but this one was recommended from a friend.

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